posted on May, 21 2013 @ 06:21 PM
I think calling someone a Dead Beat Dad and forcing them to not only pay child support, but also support the mother financially is completely unfair,
and I'll get to my reasoning in a moment. I don't know about other countries but here in the States, if you are male and get a girl pregnant and she
keeps the baby, virtually 100% of the time you are ordered to support the child and more often than not, the mother as well, regardless of your
relationship status with her.
Now, the reason I think this is unfair has a lot to do with the abortion argument. If a woman has the right to get an abortion simply because she
didn't want a child, and the man has no right (which I agree with) to tell her what she can do about it, then shouldn't the man have the
equal right to say he doesn't want anything to do with the child? I'm the father of a four year old son, and I love him more than anything,
so I believe any parent, regardless of gender, should be there for them as it's not their fault, however I do not believe either parent should be
forced to support the child or the parent who has custody. I said any parent because in rare cases, the mother will give the child to the father and
will be required to support them.
Mind you, I am not referring to divorces, or people who were in lengthy relationships AFTER the child was born. If you were married anytime after
pregnancy, of course you should be obligated. I'm kind of conflicted over unmarried relationships, but am leaning towards saying no one should be
required in that instance as well.
I guess to simplify it, for the time being I am mostly referring to one-night stands or people who weren't married. As I said, I believe any parent
should be there for their child, however, I believe there shouldn't be a double-standard when it comes who has the right to choose if they want a
child or not.