reply to post by natalia
That is pretty much how I handle it.
My daughter is free to believe whatever she wants as she grows up.
My sons too.
There was a lot of conflict in my previous marriage over belief systems, but after we divorced and the kids were put into church (almost forced) as
they got older, they became much more open minded. You cannot force a belief on someone if it just doesn't feel right. I was however very open and
honest with them about my own beliefs but always reminded them that not everyone believes like I do, and some even think my own beliefs border
But I was always honest with them, and always tried to explain all sides of beliefs when it was asked.
I always told them there is no wrong way, just your way and my way, especially when it came to spirituality and religion.
I remember one of my boys coming home one day from sunday school and he looked me in the eye and told me I was going to burn in hell because of what I
experience and believe, (he was 6 then) and although that hurt, I explained again about what belief systems are, and how we all have to make our own
I then asked him if he believed that I was a bad person for being like I am, would I deserve such treatment?, to which he said no, but that is what
the bible says.
I think the lightbulb started burning a little brighter in his mind at that point. To this day they all question religion, although all attend
church,they know what is right and what is wrong and hold strong spiritual centers.
Kids are smart, and if they are taught that there are several views with religion and spirituality growing up, and to not judge someone because they
believe differently, they will know what is truth and what is spoon fed. My views are not their views, but their views are no less valid than
mine,only difference in perspective, labels and experience.
The important thing to me is to keep them open to the fact that there are many ways to experience life.