reply to post by an0nThinker
Thank you for your reply. Wow, what to say first?
I guess I should clarify the title. I grew up in the 80s, when women's lib wasn't quite the big deal as it was earlier. Today I rarely here about
women's lib anymore so just assumed the movement was over. Obviously, I got that very wrong.
I've read several horror stories on here and other forums that describe how skewed the courts are in favor of women, especially with custody
disputes. I believe it, and it's a terrible shame. The children should be with the best parent, period. But men have to fight much harder to gain
With regards to alimony...I think it's outdated. When I got my divorce the lawyer suggested I ask for alimony. At the time my ex was a paramedic and
I made more than him. I refused to ask for alimony, and our split was luckily very amicable. We just took back the things we'd brought to the
marriage and split the rest.
I think alimony is unneeded in today's society. After all, women have equality (or pert durn near) in the workplace. If a woman gets a divorce it
shouldn't be a free ticket to easyville. Let her work, just like everyone else.
I know there are situations were alimony might be justified, such as a woman who helped put her husband through med school only to be dumped when he
graduated, but even then I don't think the percentage should be high. But that's my opinion.
As to women alleging child abuse to finagle more money out of their ex....again, I can see it. However, I don't think it's a female thing so much as
it is a societal/generational thing. The parents of my students, who are typically young twenty something's, seem to have a sense of entitlement
about everything. I see it all the time, and it's something my students do as well. I'm generalizing here, but the majority want the reward without
the effort. I'd guess 80% of my parents receive government assistance of some sort, yet they also drive new cars and have nice iPhones. I've heard
them laugh about getting arrested for selling drugs or prostitution, and I've heard some offer advice on how to scam local churches and charities out
of money. These same parents dropped out of school and could care less if their children follow suite. I could go on and on but I'll stop bc that's
a totally. Different topic.
I understand your concerns about marriage....what about a prenup? If the partner to be is unwilling to sign a prenup, that would be a big red flag
Tenth and BigFatFurryTexan, your comments were wonderful and thought provoking as well. I've got lots to think about.