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shrubs which have finally covered the sidewalk many of us enjoy.
Originally posted by Char-Lee
reply to post by abeverage
shrubs which have finally covered the sidewalk many of us enjoy.
OK this part yes, public space. I have an acre of wonderful flowers and garden, the neighbor has dandelions, also an acre, they breed gophers and slugs...I don't feel that is any of my business. When those things migrate to me I take care of them...oh yeah and the blackberry and ivy vines that grow over and under the fence.
I took issue only when their dog kept coming in and trying to bite me. It would growl and bite at me and I tried to make friends but it was not going to be friendly! I was scared!
I would be weeding on my knees and next thing there was teeth snapping at my face. Once it corned me in the back of the pickup and I could not reach the house...THEY were in their yard the whole time and never did a thing!
I talked to them calmly about it (at first). I asked for their help even help me make friends with the dog. I could not open my driveway gate and leave it open for my husband and eventually he dug under the fence anyway.
THEY yelled at me for having a problem with their dog? They said "we have a right to have a dog!! I said "not in MY yard!
You cannot please nor reason with some people! You can crawl and beg and bribe with pie all you want! All you will do is lose your self respect.
Even then, though, harassment is illegal. The HOA could levy fines and whatnot if the owner is not keeping up their end of the agreement. But it is not legal to harass.
Originally posted by Char-Lee
reply to post by abeverage
a home that has a HOA
This of course is a whole nother story and issue.
THEY yelled at me for having a problem with their dog? They said "we have a right to have a dog!! I said "not in MY yard!
Originally posted by Char-Lee
reply to post by soulpowertothendegree
If the words they speak to you cause you consternation, you are the problem.
We should all have the right to relax in our own space without "words" from anyone. If you call that their own fault I guess you have no expectation of a decent life. You come home to your own space and think people have a right to berate you over the fence?edit on 20-5-2013 by Char-Lee because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by captaintyinknots
Even then, though, harassment is illegal. The HOA could levy fines and whatnot if the owner is not keeping up their end of the agreement. But it is not legal to harass.
Originally posted by Char-Lee
reply to post by abeverage
a home that has a HOA
This of course is a whole nother story and issue.
Are people allowed to just yell at you in your own yard and harass you?
Guy yelled at son for boxers showing...woman insulted her hair color
Is there some ordinance that says I have to spray my dandelions or rake my leaves on a prescribed timetable?
Sometimes I just want to go "home" where there is some sanity and love. Any advice as to how to manage this situation, protect myself and have a little peace in my own yard?
Basically I am trying to point out it's not all about the OP or You or even Me (geez I cannot believe I said that...), Especially in a neighborhood... It is about compromise...I try to be good neighbors, not nosy, keep the dog quiet and in my yard, not demanding and yeah you are right some people will never get along...but I still insist you need to try a few things if at that point they will not budge find more like minded people to live around.
Originally posted by WaterBottle
Why don't you flat out tell them to shut up? Say it's my yard and I can do what I want with it.
I asked her to please stop talking to me. She ignored me.
Originally posted by Gazrok
reply to post by Char-Lee
THEY yelled at me for having a problem with their dog? They said "we have a right to have a dog!! I said "not in MY yard!
No doubt, they are breaking the law here. You should remind them that should the dog bite someone, they can easily be sued, so they may want to consider ensuring they retain control of their animal. I'm an animal lover, and owner of dogs myself, but I know it is MY responsibility to ensure they are safely restrained. On the larger dogs, I even go a step further and have a basket style muzzle on them for turn out into a fenced in yard (this muzzle doesn't impede them drinking, etc., but prevents biting).
Oh, and take pictures of the dog being out without a leash, and in your lawn. The more the better. Should anything ever happen, you'll have more ammo than you'll need in court.edit on 20-5-2013 by Gazrok because: (no reason given)
they have the right to voice their displeasure
P.S. Char-Lee, I am now completely confused on the definition of socializing
Originally posted by soulpowertothendegree
reply to post by Char-Lee
If it was your lawn I suggest you would feel different. As a matter of fact I guarantee you have voiced your displeasure to others about many things. Do not pretend to be holier than thou, it is not very becoming of you and rather hypocritical.edit on 20-5-2013 by soulpowertothendegree because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Char-Lee
reply to post by abeverage
Star for you last post I understand you better now.
P.S. Char-Lee, I am now completely confused on the definition of socializing
I don't go to parties...I don't like gatherings...I rarely even go out for a meal
I like my home to be a sanctuary from the world for us alone, except for very rare invitation..no drop in and visits even from family. I have zero friends because I don't trust anyone any more.
I am a loner, I sculpt, read, write, garden, sew, paint, cook, play online game, visit ATS, hike, bike, camp, all alone or with my husband and that's it. Very unsocial.
Believe me they will be so drunk they wont give a flying rats ___ about your lawn, if yer real sly take a few sips before you go over and you will all have great time...well until the morning...
Son...you know you are really really drunk when you have to grab onto the carpet to keep from falling out of the house! now DRINK UP!