Originally posted by FissionSurplus
Pat Robertson is mentally challenged.
Nowhere in "Thou Shalt Not Commit Adultery" does it qualify that this rule only applies to women and not to men.
You may be right about that, but there is what is called Rabbinical Law which defines precisely what is considered adultery, and defines specific
instances when a man is committing adultery.
The difference between adultery and fornication is also defined. Fornication is "sex for pleasure", and is actually allowable because it does not
compromise the purpose of relations between husband and wife (to procreate).
According to this belief a man can only commit adultery in 2 ways:
If a man puts away (divorces) his wife and marries another. There is actually an exception to this that says that a man can put away his wife for
the purpose of fornication
( Matthew 19:9 and Matthew 5:32)
If a man fornicates with a married woman, or a woman who's husband (even if her husband her "put away") is still alive. If the woman with whom the
husband fornicated was unmarried it was not considered adultery). Any other sexual relations between a man and an unmarried woman are
A woman, however, would be said to be committing adultery if she is married and having relations with a man, divorced (if the divorcing husband is
alive) or single and having relations with a married man.
A single man and a single woman having relations is considered fornication, unless the woman is betrothed (engaged) and the man which she was having
relations with was not her husband to be. In this instance, a woman would be considered to be committing adultery.
The punishment for adultery is the same for both the man and the woman (usually death by stoning), however a woman would be punished for fornication,
and a man would not be.
This may explain why the Pat Robertson's of the world seem to allude to the idea that cheating is ok and "expected".
It may also explain the tendency for those who have been married and divorced in the Catholic church to seek annulments.
Personally I do not adhere to these beliefs, but I know of it because this was the explanation that was given to me to justify the wandering ways of
one of my exes, and why one ex (whom I loved very much) felt that I was not worth marrying because he could not bear the thought of being associated
with such a sin (He was Catholic, and I was a divorcee, his marriage was annulled and mine was not).
Now, with all of that said, Here is my 2¢.
There is a tendency that modern society has the expectation that once a man and woman are married that they are to have no interest in other men or
women, and only have attention and appreciation for their respective husbands and wives. Married couples are not "allowed" to appreciate others or
flirt in any way. This seems to be especially true for men.
How many videos are there of women smacking their men when they are caught "looking at" another woman?
To me personally, this is unrealistic, and I believe that suppression of these things has a great influence on whether or not a man (or woman) will
cheat. There are those that believe that the longer you suppress a desire the more intense the need to fulfill it becomes, and the more involved and
complicated sating that desire becomes. When it comes to men cheating on women (or women cheating on men), it generally has nothing to do with the sex
life, but an attention (or lack thereof) factor. How can one appreciate another without having something else to compare it to? If you are not allowed
to look (or even flirt),or seek the attention (and I'm not talking sex here) or conversation of another of the opposite sex, how can you appreciate
what you have, and the attention your partner gives you? From my experience, and from the experiences of those around me, this seems to be the case
more often than not.
What "society" defines as cheating varies widely, but it is generally accepted that any
attention given to a member of the opposite sex in
any type of provocative or flirtatious manner is a big no-no.
In my current relationship (which just celebrated it's 12th year) not only do I find no offense in his appreciation of other women (looking or
flirting), he does not take offense to my appreciation of other men, and in that we find a greater appreciation in each other. We do not try to hide
it from each other either and often laugh at the actions and reactions of others, which has helped us maintain an open dialogue of our needs and
desires for each other, and I feel helped us maintain a healthy and appreciative relationship.
Besides, I have always said that when my husband stops looking at other good looking women and appreciating their beauty, I'm in big trouble, because
if he is no longer interested in women, he is probably no longer interested in me! :lol