posted on May, 17 2013 @ 12:45 AM
How many of you have spent time writing a thread only to have it completely ignored? Maybe the response you did get wasn't they one you were hoping
for. Maybe your expectations were set to high.
This is true with every day life. We spend time creating expectations about everything we do. We deal with the expectations of others.
I only have control over my own expectations, so for me I try to keep mine at a minimum for any situation. I am not pessimistic; rather I am
cautiously a realistic optimist.
The post I just read had to with someone thinking ATS was not a place to have a discussion about things with out being politically correct; they had
expectations that were not being met and so they wished us all a farewell.
Guess what? When you signed up to be here they gave you specific rules and regulations; this is the way they want their website operated. They laid
down specific expectations that they have for their members on their free forum; if you fail to meet their expectations then you will deal with the
You don't have to be here and you do not have to agree and you can disappear and ATS will function just fine without you.
I spent many years at various websites and I am glad ATS has the rules they do have in place; it is why I am here. They do allow for a responsible
intelligent conversation to occur in all of their forums; as long as you play by the rules.
I have many things I am interested in that I follow, I am not well versed in many of the topics, so, I think the problem most have is expectations
they have of others when offering an opinion on any subject and being told they are wrong.
I have written things that I believe and my expectations for others to agree is minimized so that I do not get hard feelings and lash out. If someone
doesn't agree with me that is fine; I have the option of whether or not I want to respond, but my expectations are not going to be affected by the
response I get or lack of response I get,
If I am disappointed that is my fault not theirs. The same can be said for others expectations of me. If they are disappointed then they need to
accept that their expectations are the cause of said disappointment.
Reasonable expectations are still often not met and disappointment can still exist, but the extent of that disappointment is ultimately up to each
individual. Having a thick skin is not easy in a paper thin world, biting remarks can sting regardless of expectations; if you can't stand the heat,
stay out of the kitchen or carry a big fire extinguisher with you.