Originally posted by inverslyproportional
To be honest, I see your post as ignorant,especially the latter part, sorry...
Every person is different. Every mind is wired differently. Human brain is extremely complicated biological "mechanism" and even with the technology
we have, we do not understand it fully.
You might have had tough childhood, I feel sorry. No child deserves a childhood like that. I am happy for you coming over it although you must
understand that everybody have different ways of dealing with it. There are millions of other factors that my influence your mindset. Maybe you were
just "lucky" in the sense that you learned to deal with it at the right time and they did not because of having certain social skills stronger,
meeting some role model for whatever reasn. Maybe your friends were different, better influence. Maybe your brain is just wired differently.There
could be million other reasons why for them with seemingly also tough childhood the futures were different.Maybe they just saw ONE movie that changed
their life, because identified so much with it. The problems might seem same from your perspective, although everybody has a different perspective,
different reactions to seemingly same stimulis. Previous experience alters the reactions a lot. After all, we humans are creatures of habit. So
anything could actually change them as persons.
Another thing that must be considered, is the fact that emotions are nothing else than chemical reactions in your mind. Being sad, angry, happy or
calm is simply dependent on the chemical balance in your brain. We do not know exactly how much we can actually do to alter the balance. Mind-body
connection is there, but currently it is more of a pseudoscience, than real one, as it is nearly impossible to prove it with current technology. Also
we must admit that emotions are not only dependent on one certain chemical but the balance between all chemicals. Happyness is believed to be
influenced by serotonin levels, although the thyroid hormones, hemoglobine levels, all kinds of things can actually alter the feeling.
There might be universal right/wrong in most cases, although everything is again dependent on other things and everybody sees them differently..When
the emotions are very strong, it requires extreme mental effort (which again is affected by chemical balance) to come over it, in a way it can be said
that it is like coming over very strong drug addiction, just mentally. Would you die for your beliefs? Most people wouldn´t. I have seen kids with
terrible behavioural problems and unless you get their on time, it is nearly impossible to stop them. Unless one has learned anger management
techniques and "catches" the anger in time, it is very hard to calm oneself down, when the anger unleashes. Same can be said about very strong
addiction/habit. It is very-very hard to overcome the emotions. Even with strong cigarette addiction, not getting one´s cigarette for certain period
is like suffering a mental torture for hours.
For everybody there is some trigger that might unleash emotions that are nearly uncontrollable. For some people it is very hard to push, for some
easier. For most serial killers / shooters at some point the trigger was pushed and they can do nothing about it. There is so strong addiction-like
feeling, fighting with that is suffering extreme mental torture.
We analysed the topic for a long time in psychology lectures. Even some series portray it quite well. It is interesting and at the same time
horrifying. We do not know how much we actually can control ourselves, as we have never reached the critical points in our lives.
Everything happens for a reason.
I loved the sentence somebody said: Most people dont care to understand the reasons, they just care about judging the behaviour.
It is all empathy, trying to understand the reasons behind everything. That is the problems I see with you, inverselyproportional, you take everybody
the same as you are, you seem to think, as I do something, everybody should think, act the same way. You do not even care to understand them, but
judge because they are different from you, and you can not understand why. There is a Why for everything that happens.
edit on 14-5-2013 by
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