posted on May, 9 2013 @ 02:12 PM
ATS is not normally known as a dating site, but it IS known for topics of high strangeness, This is one of them. I met my current wife right here at
good old ATS. How's that for conspiratorially weird? It gets weirder... You see, she's a Muslim, and I'm not. Most folks familiar with my posts
would have never guessed such a thing. Not in a million years. I follow Jesus (well, about as well as I can, anyhow), but I'm not any sort of
Christian I've ever run across, and can't seriously call myself one on that account. Anyone who has read any of the running battles I've had with
Muslims here would never have guessed I'd marry one, but there it is. Just goes to show that we don't have to spend ALL of our time trying to kill
one another off - we can take breaks from it, and learn in the process.
Evidently she's one of those Muslims I had some running battles with, and oddly enough it sparked something. Told you it gets weird. As it turns out,
religion is not a barrier to getting along, and getting along very well. Two people of different faiths CAN get along - all it takes is respect for
one another, and respect for their ability to sort out their own beliefs... and the respect to allow them to do that, and the tenacity to uphold it
against the certain onslaughts, and support each other when they come... because they WILL. Trust me on that.
Two people who meet online CAN make it, but there are hoops to jump through. The number one hoop is to realize who you ARE, yourself, rather than who
you WANT to be. If you can't even be honest with yourself, it doesn't matter WHERE you meet - you'll never be able to be honest with them, either,
and it'll fail. Without being entirely open and honest, there will be no success, regardless of the venue where you meet, and that openness and
honesty are the most difficult things to deal with - far more difficult than the censure of others. Others are rank strangers, and can be left in the
dust. Not so easy to do with a spouse. Leaving yourself open means leaving yourself vulnerable, and so requires a bit more trust than usual, with the
concurrent risks it also entails. Without it, however, there is no risk - and no reward. It's doomed to failure from the beginning.
Might as well go fishing instead.
We'll face our share of trials and tribulations, and a lot of folks set against us because of our choice, but I believe love will always prevail
against evil, and together we'll stand against the onslaughts, hand in hand.
This time last year, I was living with a woman who really didn't want to be lived with. Oh, she didn't mind SPENDING every dime I could make, but
the whole "acting like a wife" thing was way out of her league. There's only so much sleeping on the couch and cooking for himself and whatnot that
any man is going to put up with, and I'm the only one I've ever met who would put up with if for a year before deciding that he can spend his own
money far better. I mean, good lord, if you're going to be by yourself, why not just BE BY YOURSELF? So I determined that I was getting the hell out
of there, and was going to spend the rest of my days out in the woods and mountains by myself, but at peace. I was OK with that. Came into this world
naked, alone, and screaming, and I was OK with going back out the same way.
Then I got an odd U2U.
Someone I'd crossed words with in a religion thread opened a dialog. I didn't see it coming. Didn't even know if it was a male or a female, and
didn't much care at the time. That came later.
The groundwork was laid in U2U's, over a period of time. That progressed to texting and phone calls. Eventually, I made good on my choice from before
to get the hell out of Dodge, but with a brand new plan for the rest of my days. After some rank unpleasantness where I was, wherein I lost my ass and
everything I had of value, which was stolen in my attempt to flee, I got on a bus. No matter. I think there's an ancient Chinese proverb that says
something along the lines of "a wise man must be prepared to relocate with only what he has on his back many times in a life time". Yup, that was
I was arrested on trumped up BS charges (that's a whole 'nother story, not for this thread. but believe it or not, I thanked the cop for getting me
the hell out of there, even as I was being led away in handcuffs - he was pretty decent about the whole thing) and did a couple days in jail, all
because I just wanted to leave - and take my paycheck with me. While I was in jail, they ransacked my stuff, and stole everything of value - even all
of my identity papers - my birth certificate, social security card, even my son's birth certificate and my ex-wife's death certificate. I mean to
tell you they cleaned me out. Who in the hell is going to take on a man with NOTHING - not even an identity any more? I found out who.
Got out of jail and went to court the second day after that, left the court house and came home to my mountains, rested a day, and then hopped on a
west-bound bus. I'd made a promise, you see, and I was damned well going to keep it, whatever that took. Folks who know me know that I'm like that,
which is why it's so hard to squeeze a promise out of me. I don't make 'em if I'm not sure I can keep 'em.
SO - I rode westward for a day or so, hopped off the bus at my destination with just what I could pack in my old beat-up ALICE rucksack, and there she
was at the station waiting, even knowing all the aggravation of the past few days that I'd run through, and knowing I was showing up with NOTHING. We
were married within 5 hours of my boots hitting the ground there, right at 7 days after my arrest . At a city bus stop no less. We had a preacher meet
us there, got married right there in front of God and everybody, a bunch of strangers we didn't know for the wedding party and to witness it. I tell
ya, you just can't make this stuff up - folks wouldn't believe it.
There it is, the whole sordid tale. I don't regret it a bit, and don't believe I'm going to. After a few months, you can generally tell if you've
made a mistake, and I'm seeing no signs of it, weird and fast though the buildup was. We've kept it quiet for a few months, just dealing with the
disapproval of friends and family and whatnot, but now that's dealt with, it's time to go public and see what sort of onslaught comes on. I'll not
identify her, the religious problems being what they are. She can do that herself if she wants to. Enough folks around here already know who it is,