reply to post by FreedomEntered
Like many people, you assume Arranged Marriage = Forced Marriage, It is not, welcome to to 21st century.
I almost lived this whole modern arrange marriage(my friend's marriage).
Initially, a matchmaker, involving astrology(this astrology is so complicated, each person has like 30-40 page book of information), looks up
planetary alignment and other natural aspect during birth of the male and the female(the information is given to them by couples parents), this
Once a match is decided, the matchmaker calls both parents up and tell them, they have high compatibility ratio(some people abide by this, some
don't, having a low capability ratio may involve divorce or worse, death, if they were to be together).
The parents ARRANGE a meeting, usually the male goes to the females house(but now it does not matter), parents usually take about their heritage,
grandparents, city and town they were brought up in( this can take 2-3 hours). While the parents are talking, the the male and the female, either just
go to a living room or the backyard or somewhere away from their parents and a "first date" starts.
The first date mainly involve, long term goals, like whether its about continuing education after marriage, or ending it, or whether the current job
is a stable, etc etc.
If the couple agree to meet again(which they say when they get home), the parents this time can let the couples meet by themselves, they go to
restaurant or some other "decent" place, usually bars and nightclubs are frowned upon(but who cares nowadays).
The second date usually involves a bit more personal, but it vary by people. It involves, possible children, moving to a new state, city, country,
living close to parents(this is always a power battle lol) and etc...
Usually if 3rd date was possible(again,it varies with people), chances are , they are most likely will go thru with the wedding.
The wedding might not happen for months and years, during this time, they can go on enough dates.. my friend secretly took his "fiance" to
nightclubs etc lol.
Source, i was there during the arrange marriage meeting, and my friend told me everything detail. My friends family looks at me as their son.
This is mainly a Hindu aspect of arranged marriage in 21st century between 2 educated couple, im sure in villages they have different view... oh oh!
also, usually well educated family do not discuss dowry because, dowry usually means "men takes care of women", but now a days, women make more or
equal to men, means, dowry is a useless concept.
The concept of forced marriage is usually get mixed in this, which is totally wrong, forced marriage is when the couple have no option to refused and
even say any word.