I think “hurt feelings” DO occur immediately, and give way to acts.
There is more than enough research that shows we have emotional responses in our body before we even consciously become aware of them, and with a
little cognitive processing, we can even re-label them, create a different story around them, come up with some way for the conscious mind to
proclaim “I did this on purpose, for this logical reasoning…”
It is only after we have considered them for a length of time that we can decide what kind of story we shall spin, how we shall catalogue the event,
and even- whether or not we shall choose to acknowledge the emotion that happened.
We can decide it was not rationally, or morally correct, in that post emotion processing, and even deny it happened. But that doesn’t change the
fact that it happened. –That the body had a reaction, that was immediately in response to outside stimuli, even without the sacrosanct intellect
being in control or even aware in the moment.
(including having just been in a mode of defensiveness faced with numerous opposants, and having accidently made a jab at a supporter)
The intellect claiming it is in control of all the bodies acts and physiological processes, with total independence from others and the exterior
(it’s all up to me and how I choose)
Is a false sense of power. THERE is the fantasy entity, the magical powerful invisible man behind the curtain who claims to be pulling all the
switches and with power to manipulate all expression and movement of the body… which is reduced to nothing more than a meat suit completely
submissive to the “I”.
Yeah, emotions don’t matter and shouldn’t be considered as relevant in human exchange. Each one of us is responsible for choosing every emotion
that happens inside in response to others actions and the exterior. Good thing, because the little man in the head has his hands full trying to catch
up and pull those switches fast enough to make it look like, “I chose that. For this reason. That’s how all powerful I am”
edit on 28-5-2015 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)