reply to post by curiouswa
Oh it would leave one helluva mark on me also that's for sure. Tragic really, sounds like he was simply crying for help and it went unheard. That is
actually quite common with families, as you said, they just tried to intervine which not to point fingers, could have been the straw the broke his
People think that getting together as a group and calling out someones faults and failures is a good tool to get them back on track. Really?!?! I
suppose it could help some people, but you have ego's and pride to contend with. If I had a group of people telling me hey, your an awesome guy and
so much going for you, but your current decisions are making you a failure.
"Oh geez, I didn't realize, thank you for making me feel like a total piece of #" .......
Even if they had the best interest at heart, the truth is (IMO or in my eyes), those who wanted to help came with an agenda. They knew what they
wanted to say and what to do to hopefully motivate this individual. Makes me wonder if there was anyone there actually looking and listening to clues
to how he really felt. To be responsive and reactive to "his" needs, instead of trying to fulfill their own needs.
I know I am making assumptions which therefore makes me an ass, but that's not my intent, just want to call out that people need to be mindful of
these types of actions, that's all. Perhaps he would have done what he did regardless of what was said to him by whom and how many. Who knows...Still
very, very, tragic.
I know someone who hung themselves also. He had a good career, nice home, etc. I was dating his step-daughter. He gave up on life after his wife left
him which was something he couldn't reconcile and was compounded by his son overdosing 3 years before and also leaving this earth. All he wanted to
do was be with his son....sad, so very sad.
He went down the basement and wrapped himself in an american flag, tied a noose around his neck and the
rest is history.
I hope I didn't offend you from my above comments. Just my opinion mind you.