reply to post by randomtangentsrme
One tip, Communication.
Communication is key, Not only to but to maintain wanted friendships, and business relationships, but also sustain a healthy marriage
You got all three in one scenario.
First make clear if bob was indeed being rude, perhaps she was having a bad day.
Tell her you felt insulted by her comments. This is tough but honesty reveals honesty. She most likely will apologize and perhaps recognize that you
value this friendship, and maybe give you a deal. Wired but it works.
And whatever you do, do not bring up past incidents. If you must, wait for the opportunity to gently remind her, but do not use it as a weapon, that
is a guarantee to escalate any anticipated conflict. You did their wedding out of the kindness of your heart, that was your decision based on your
values, she has different values and apparently different cost involved. She does not owe you anything other than to give you the best wedding cake
you ever had at the agreed price.
If she really is trying to screw you over, then shame on her. Make the best of the situation, be positive for your bride, get her through the wedding
happy. Then hope time will heal the broken friendship.
I know you didn't ask for it but the above advise parallels advise given to me about handling conflict in a marriage.
Use this situation as a test, see what happens when you can be honest with your feelings with this friend. Anticipating the conflict by gathering
ammo to attack is proven to only divide. Take this lesson to your new marriage as you for sure will encounter conflict. Disciplining yourself during
times of conflict to speak to your spouse rather than at them will help foster the relationship, rather than frustrate the relationship.
Sorry I'm long on this but I really want you to have a great wedding. A little nick like this one can fester and put a shadow around what's supposed
to be a wonderful day. And I hope you can take some of this advise to your relationship building with your spouse.
I have been happily married to my wife for 15 years, we dated 4 years before we got married, three kids. Incase you feel weary of taking marital
advice from an anonymous ATS member.