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it is followed by a swat with a wooden spoon.
Originally posted by wildtimes
reply to post by BattlePlastic
it is followed by a swat with a wooden spoon.
Why not just the flat of your open hand? In my opinion, the smack to the bottom with an open hand is meant more to "surprise" than to injure. My mom liked the "wooden spoon" thing, too. She rarely used it, though, just used to wave it at us when we'd get rowdy. That was enough to work.
I'm glad to hear you use time-outs and loss of toys, privileges, etc. Bribing and withholding favorite things work MUCH better than beating. Any day of the week.
Love and Logic.
I use a single swat from a wooden spoon because I believe hitting your child with your bare hands is abuse. I wont judge what you consider abuse as we will have a difference of opinion. To me, I would rather my children refer to a wooden spoon as a symbol of discipline rather that the same hands that tuck them in at night.
Originally posted by CirqueDeTruth
Originally posted by wildtimes
reply to post by BattlePlastic
it is followed by a swat with a wooden spoon.
Why not just the flat of your open hand? In my opinion, the smack to the bottom with an open hand is meant more to "surprise" than to injure. My mom liked the "wooden spoon" thing, too. She rarely used it, though, just used to wave it at us when we'd get rowdy. That was enough to work.
I'm glad to hear you use time-outs and loss of toys, privileges, etc. Bribing and withholding favorite things work MUCH better than beating. Any day of the week.
Love and Logic.
This is what I was taught by my own grandmother and mother as the only thing acceptable. This was also in the days where spanking wasn't frowned upon as greatly as it is today. Anything other than an open hand swat - specifically aimed for the derriere - is abuse. I was also taught that anything more than three open hand swats to the butt in one act of discipline - is abuse. Any time a person picks up an object to use instead of their open hand - is abuse. Then I was taught that spankings are reserved for those times when they almost killed themselves or another - is the only time a spanking is acceptable. All other discipline is to be the corner/time-out (I make them stand. What's the punishment in letting them sit?) or loss of privilege.
But then, thinking of my brother's younger years and the hell he put my mother through. Sometimes I think a well place belt on his ass might have gave him pause. We rarely got spankings, and so it is with my own children. They rarely get spankings. Once, my oldest when a little tike, was going to run across the street to get a ball kicked across. I yelled for her to wait, I would get it. But she had other ideas and went to dart across the road to retrieve the ball. I pulled her back at the last second. I almost lost her. She got an open handed swat on the butt for that one. I was so scared. I didn't let her out of the house for a week, and she never attempted to cross the road again. She'd yell for me, "Mom, I kicked the ball across the road again." It makes my heart race just thinking of how close she came to getting hit by a car.
I always thought, everyone was taught that way when I was younger. I know now that's not the case. Which is why we have cps, to respond to those cases where discipline has slipped over into abuse.
Cirque
I'm 24 and not American, thus my parents are civilised.
Originally posted by DelayedChristmas
Well. I don't think I ever learned from the discipline. Before the hitting began, my father always asked, "What did you do?" I never answered. I always kept my mouth shut and just took the hits. Honestly, it just made me a tougher, angrier kid.
The discipline was this: I would sit on my knees and keep my arms/back straight. My arms would be up in the air and if any of my arms or back was bent, I'd be expecting a scolding or extra hitting.
My dad would use anything... Clothes hanger, wood spoon, spatula, mop stick, back scratcher, and a wrench to my brother once. One time, my brother and I got into a fight which ended up with both of us locked outside the house in our boxers in snowy weather.
However, I understand why my dad did what he did in that particular fashion. I know it pained him to discipline me that way and it pained to see it not work.
Originally posted by wildtimes
reply to post by NOTurTypical
Hahaha. That's hilarious.
! I think It's sad.