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Originally posted by Theflyingweldsman
reply to post by pityocamptes
Jesus taught us to feed the birds and love our neighbours.
Treat others not as they treat you,
but as you would have them treat you.
Be the change you want to see.
Originally posted by Wrabbit2000
reply to post by pityocamptes
I'll tell ya, OP. Revenge is never what we hope it will be and grudges are self defeating. I experienced some of the worst I've ever seen in humanity when my Father died. It scarred me in ways I've come to accept will never fully heal and taught me hate in a nature I wish I'd never known beyond words to say in conservation. Some truths in life are truly better left unknown...for all involved.
It's from that position of thought that I say, in my opinion, you need to do what YOU know is right. NOT what they would like, want or not appreciate. You do the right thing because YOU know whether you did it and whether you're a good person or not. The right thing matters because looking in the mirror is a real important thing in life ...without the shadow of regret in your own reflected eyes. Who cares what they think either way? They sound like toads. All that matters is what you think of yourself.
If bringing food is what you'd have seen as the right thing when you were on the other end? Perhaps it's what you ought to do here ....because you know it's what's decent to do.
Originally posted by trollz
Why be so petty?
Stop worrying about other people and do what YOU want.
If you want to bring them food, go for it. If you don't feel like it, then don't.
Originally posted by verschickter
If I were you, I would bring food, if its understood as a nice gesture to the one´s mourning, why not*.
Think of the one who left, do you really like to bring revenge to his funeral meet? I mean it´s to honor the dead one so I would not like to spoil the moment of saying goodbye bye bringing revenge. However, I´m not you and not in your situation so you should listen to your heart.
*Where I live, we don´t do that, so its only half true.
I´m interested, is there a tradition behind this? May I ask you where you live? I really would like to know.
In my region we do a funeral feast, means after funeral close relatives and friends eat together in a restaurant or such and most people share their memories about good times they had with the one that had to say goodbye forever.