Join the military. You will learn to have three, and only three emotional phases.
This is bullshiit.
Grow a back bone, please.
Tell your sister, you love her, but don't have all the answers, you're not made of money, and you're tired.
Tell your grandma, you love her, but you also love your father, and the things she says about him hurts your feelings, and it's hard for you to listen
Tell your dad that you love him, but he needs to take control of his life, that you look to him for inspiration, and he is overwhelming you.
Where's your husband during this? ( assuming ). You need to tell him to step up and give you a shoulder to lean on. To answer the phone for you and
say your busy at the moment, regardless of who it is.
However, if you can't keep yourself in order, you can't help keep others in order, efficiently. Worry about you first. Wasn't in the mood to speak to
your grandmother? Wasn't in the mood to counsel your dad? Wasn't in the mood to give your sister any money? Relax, keep calm, and carry on. They'll
get over it.
I'm the authoritative type, though, I'll let you know in a heartbeat, respectfully, that I'm getting annoyed. You should as well.
I would give you a more specific example on how I deal with all this mess, but, if you aren't Christian, it might turn you off.
We all have our sad stories. Your story sounds sad, if I were your husband, i might give you a hug or a pat on the back or something.
However, lets face it, sad story or not, you aren't handling this the best way. How do you handle it? You don't. What is this idiocy I speak? Stop
trying to " handle " the situation, but steer it. You get my drift?
direct your grandmothers thoughts, your sisters actions, and your fathers woes
by speaking positively, empowering them, encouraging, chastising them lovingly.
Stop worrying about them, and start loving. Send me a PM if you need more specifics, I'll give you tips on how to be a leader and control the
atmosphere around you.
edit on 23-4-2013 by milkyway12 because: (no reason given)