posted on Apr, 20 2013 @ 10:09 AM
A coupe of things to add to the discussion here. It's plain rude period to not say hello back when someone greets you. If I get on a bus and I say
hello to the person I just sat across from and they just stare at me then look away like I'm some sort of asshole for being polite and civil then that
person who failed to respond back is guilty of being the real asshole. They are the rude ones. Also, why not say hello back. Is that person simply
too lazy to respond like a normal human being. Or are they too entitled to feel that they should have to be inconvenienced by the real world for a
split second in their inwardly focused fantasy world.
On the other side of the coin there is such a thing as being too friendly to the point its rude. For instance there are some people who insist on
having a conversation with some stranger while on the bus and either don't care or are blind to the fact that the other person isn't interested in
having a conversation. In this instance A group of guys walking across a bus to a specific person and trying to engage said stranger in a
conversation could be considered rude.
But on the other side of the coin again, the guy could have shown some savvy and simply said hello back, nodded his head and gone back to what he was
doing and it probably would have been all over. If something happened after that then he would have been 100% justified in blaming the other guy in
regards to any incident. But he didn't he decided that two wrongs make a right and acted like a jerk back. Bad things happen to anybody who does
Another thing to consider was that the guy could have been trying to reach across the isle so to speak and greet the jewish guy as a show of
community. Maybe not but we don't know his original intentions. When the other guy refused his extension maybe it insulted him and thats what set
One thing I can tell you from experience is that very orthodox jews often don't acknowledge other people when in passing. My family lives in a
neighborhood with many of this denomination. When any "outsiders" walk down te street they refuse to say hello in response. If you smile at them
when and say hello when they walk by they refuse to make eye contact and wont talk to you. To me I just make excuses that it's just a part of their
religion to not be friendly to anybody who isn't one of their own, or to even acknowledge them. But I gotta admit I do feel offended each and every
time. I know for a fact it offends everybody else in the community too. It does translate to others as a form of disrespect. It does feel like a
slight when it happens. And it definitely feels like they are entitled to not talk to someone lesser than them. Thats what comes across to others
that I've talk to in that community that experience the same thing.
Finally, there is nothing wrong with greeting someone with assalamualaikum. It's just another way of saying hello. It doesn't have any equivalent to
saying hello (enter ethnic discriminatory word)! I can walk up to the same guy and say Ni Hao. Hola, heck even benedictus and the response from him
or any civilized person should be at least a psudo smile and a nod of the head in acknowledgment. Anything less is just rude.
After thought. Again going with a two wrongs don't make it right theme. The guy once offended could have simply gone "uhh. OK not much of a talker,
guess some people have no manners anymore" and walked away or something similar. and it would have been over too. Just cause you are offended
doesn't mean you should loose control and go off spouting stuff. SO yeah both parties acted like douches in this instance. But man, If I said to
someone hey were all cousins here were all humans. And the the context is obvious like it was here that it's a reference that were all people and in
the end the same, that there is no race and all that happy stuff. And the response back was No were not. In the context of you and me are nothing
alike, I'm not one of "your" kind. ie your subhuman or inferior to me. I would think the guy was an asshole too and might be tempted to say something
snide back even if said snide comment was social taboo in a biased society.
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