posted on Apr, 19 2013 @ 12:17 PM
Originally posted by sulaw
reply to post by Char-Lee
Good post... Awesome responses... I can't help but share my thoughts. The number of true friends I have I can count on 1 hand and I only have 5
digits on that hand. I went through a time in my life where I purged those that were not. That was a depressing time for me as you find out who is
real and who isn't. Those that stuck around I have known for a very long time and we are all still very close. No judgement, we all call it for what
it is. Though we can't offer financial support in these dire times, there company and compassion in regards to situations was well worth cutting
loose ties and hold those friends/brothers dearest to my heart.
It was hard pinpointing them but when the smoke cleared I was happy that I made the choices that I did. I would nay do anything different.
I am learning a lot from the responses here thanks everyone!
For one thing friendship, the real thing seems to not be just an easy thing to acquire or keep.
I have another question if anyone could answer. I have found that I am truly interested in people, what they do, what they like and I always find
something exciting or likable to say..."I like that" that they do or have or are interested in.
I have had a few people that have come to my home that I had reached a point of maybe entering a friendship with and none of them found anything to
comment on positively...am I just being silly wanting that from them?
For instance I am a sculptor, in clay and my work sells quickly when I decide to sell anything I even sold to a famous movie editor, I paint and my
husband does pen and ink so all art in out home is ours. We have an acre of beautiful flower gardens which we enjoy caring for, we built a flowing
stream and waterfall with benches and places to sit all around the acre. Not once did any of these persons say "oh I like your yard, or even that is
a beautiful flower you chose there, nor looked at any of my sculpture or our art commented. They did not ask to see the garden I had to ask them to
come look. We did all the work with our own hands.
I figure anyone can find something they like to comment positively on, but am I feeling bad about this only because it is what I do? I look and say,
wow you painted that yourself? If it is ugly to me I won't lie, but I will find something, like LOVE the colors you used.
Anyway I had no more to do with either of the couples in question after one invitation as I felt they were so very self focused. I don't know if this
is a strange thing about me or not as I have never socialized at all.