posted on Apr, 15 2013 @ 06:49 AM
I just need to vent somewhere. I have this half brother, we have the same mom, different dads.
He is a drug addict, and constantly in between stints in prison, or in rehab programs, being homeless and leachign of off someone.
He was raised very differently than I. Whereas me and my other siblings were brought in the textbook X generation way (basically total neglect and
rejection), this brother came into the world being treated as a messiah by my mother, because it was his conception that finally convinced her
boyfriend of ten years to marry her.
Seeing as completely ignoring and hating (or beating and injurying) her offspring didn't turn out so well with us, she decided to try the opposite
method with him, and never ever punish him, use no negative enforcement, and keep him constantly watered down with statements about his genius and
The idea, at that time, was something like- if they believe they are great and good and they will become so.
The result, instead is a raging narcissist, drug addict, unable to hold a job, unable to sustain a relationship, and a horror to be around. This
started young, as he got kicked out of schools and friends of my parents quietly distanced themselves, until my mother and stepfather were left alone
with this insupportable monster.
For a while he found a girl with low enough self esteem that she was able to feed and respond to his narcissism. until she was sucked dry
(emotionally, physically and financially) and had to leave him to save her self.
So He's posting all these drama laden long updates on Facebook that waver between attention seekign victimization wails, and sickening drawn out
statements abotu how extraordinary he is and any person who can't recognize that does not deserve him.... ladaladalada.
He's got well meanign people writing back to him, giving him strokes and telling him he's a wonderful person, and all the crap that is so damned
prevalent in that So. California culture... It's making me pull out my hair, because I have gotten used to a totally different philosophy since I
Be realistic. Don't lie to those you love. Don't bull#. Love them enough to give an accurate reflection to them of who they are and what they have
manifested in this world. Help them ground themselves, so that their efforts dig into the ground and allow them to move, rather than spinning
helplessly in the air.
I just want to scream! This kid is NOT LOVED by those around him, from what I can tell. And yet I know that if I was honest and showed my care, in the
way that I am used to expressing it, it would be seen as the opposite. By him, by his entourage, by my own family.
If I could, I would say "No, you are not extraordinary, you are not a genius, you are not talented and awesome.
Those may be potentials, but they are not the reality.
You are a drug addict, you are irresponsible, you are inconsiderate of others aroudn you and use people, steal from those you love, and lie to them.
You were not able to continue your education long enough to make any intelligence manifest (had an '___' overdose in the first month in college, had
to be hospitalized). Basically, up to now, you have just been deadweight on the society.
You do not have to amazing or awesome, just be normal. Strive to stay off drugs, and hold down a job, and be a honest person with those you around
you. That's all. "
I just cannot stand the american idea that if you criticize someone, you hate them (or are otherwise trying to hurt them). Does no one recognize the
pain it causes people to be unaware of why things are happening to them because no one will tell them the truth??
I know no one will find this of interest to read. I needed to get it out anyway. This isn't abotu Facebook- if it wasn't that vehicle, it would be
by telephone, or email, or letter. It is this sort of narcissistic attitude that so many young people have that I think is damaging, and I find it
difficult to observe.