reply to post by Meldionne1
Punishing the parents is, to put it nicely, a very bad idea. Parents, alone, do not control how a child acts; nor can any one source, when there are
multiple sources of influence. If the children were brain dead unthinking people, and their only source for information was from parents, then, and
only then, would you be correct.
Children think for themselves, and as free willed thinkers, they are going to push their limits - no matter what the limits are, or who ascribed
To give you a good example, think of how preachers' kids behave. They are known for their overly rebellious ways. Well, that's because the more you
push, the harder they push back. That's the nature of everyone, unless, of course, you push so hard that you break their will - and that is psycho
[cuss]. Like cornering a wild animal, too much pushing and they will fight back harder than they did before you cornered them. That is what I think
you're trying to do by making the parents be fined. It's ludicrous, to me.
If you want someone to act a certain way, you have to disrupt the counteractive influences. Sometimes those influences are the children themselves.
Some times it's pop-culture. Some times it's peers. Some times it's their loved ones telling of abusive racism. Some times it's because they were
racially abused themselves. Some times it's _________ (you name it and it probably had some effect on them).
Basically, if we are to shift the blame away from everyone who ever influenced the children, then we only have the children themselves, to blame.
And last but not least, I think the best recourse to inhibiting bad behavior, is to teach empathy. And the burden does not fall solely on the parents,
because society itself is just as responsible as the parents, if society behaves badly, and the children see it.
In short: Teach empathy, not eye for an eye.