This week the Police Force in Scotland was reorganised, and as a result new facebook and twitter feeds were created. One of the first tweets made was
a link to their new website and a page with information about Domestic Abuse and what constitutes it.
I was amazed when I read it.
The first part it fairly obvious talking about physical abuse and then the page goes on to say
There is a common misconception that domestic abuse is just physical abuse. This is not the case. Domestic abuse can be physical, sexual, and
emotional or mental abuse.
and towards the end we have the following
Mental/emotional abuse includes: Threats (including threats of violence); criticism and name calling; controlling what you do, where you go and who
you speak to; threatening your children, isolating you from friends and family; accusing you of being unfaithful; threatening to 'out' your sexual
orientation to family, friends or work or to reveal your HIV/AIDS status.
Now don't get me wrong I'm not in favour of bullying or anything like that but according to this you could be charged for critisising your partner.
What does that mean ? If you complain about the wifes cooking or driving she could report you.
Name calling. Ok if you swore at somebody, called them the b word or the c word they could get upset. But what if you call them something else other
than their actual name could you be in trouble ?
Controlling what you do, where you go, or who you speak to .... so your partner/wife/husband can do what they like, go where they like and speak to
whoever they want and you have no say in the matter.
Accusing of being unfaithful .... so your partner/wife/husband can go and see somebody else, you can't stop them, and if you dare to say your not
happy because you think they are up to something, you are the bad person.
Does anyone else think that this law is way over the top and frankly is quite unworkable.
I do actually know somebody who got arrested and ended in court because he shouted at his wife about the state of the house being so untidy. I don't
know what te outcome of the case was although I don't think the couple are still together.
Notice also that as soon as one side or the other makes a complaint to the Police, the complainer has no further say in what happens after that. So if
the wife gets upset and calls the Police then later changes her mind, it doesn't matter, the Police will arrest you anyway and report you to
I don't think the general public are fully aware of this recent amendment to Scottish law which is one of the reasons for my post. I'm not saying
bad partners should be let off, but I think a lot of 'ordinary' people could fall foul of this law for perhaps one off minor outbursts and end up in
a lot of trouble, expensive legal proceedings and ultimately ruined relationships.