posted on Mar, 30 2013 @ 12:18 PM
reply to post by Trigger82
I know spending time and photo sharing online FEELS like you have gotten to know someone, but it just is way far from true. Until you spent time with
someone especially around other people you start to see the real them.
When i was in your situation I vowed to dated every person who asked me (within reason) just one date at least. WOW did I learn a thing or two about
people and compatibility! Take some people (locally AFTER your move) out to a meal or coffee or a park. DON"T think of them as more then a DATE.
Start there don't jump the gun and run ahead.
Please please don't rush, it took me 5 years to do what you are doing now!
The distrusting lady has good reason i am sure, she sounds like me, so I found a guy who doesn't have any closed doors, I am welcome in every part of
his life and I can reassure my self and snoop openly! if you can handle that it should be discussed ahead of any commitment.
By your age i would think you would know how you feel about kids. As another person said, the kids WILL come first always and unless you love the heck
out of them as much as a parent it will not be a fun thing having 2 kids, It is hard enough raising two kids when they are yours!
These are things I learned through pain and a divorce that would crumble most people. Hope some of it helps.