posted on Mar, 31 2013 @ 06:47 AM
I'm not sure if I'm giving an accurate interpretation of the OP's philosophy or just putting my own take on it, but I think I see what he is
saying, and that is : if you truly enjoy doing something and are not doing it simply from fear - fear of what other will say, think about you, do, etc
- eff it because the only person losing out on that chance to be happy is you. The people holding you back are going to (and probably already do)
still think poorly or bad of you anyway, in fact you might be pleasantly surprised by the people who now respect you and support you for being your
I saw a lady in Walmart the other day and she was quite literally wearing a cape that looked like it had been made from silver and purple curtains.
She was heavyset and had in pod plugs pushing her art along and for a brief instant I was appalled, perhaps taken aback at how bizarre her getup was
and remember thinking she had her earphones in to avoid hearing the ridicule of others.
Then the non-brain washed, decent part of me kicked in and I saw someone who balks at the hypocrisy and cruelty of society's overt and covert demands
for conformity, the judgemental assessment of a persons worth simply by their appearance (attractive=good, unattractive= not only bad but unworthy of
even simple courtesy or respect; and that submission to social norms somehow makes someone a decent person.
Some of you may jump in and say- perhaps with detached commentary or just your own brainwashed ideals- that we subconsciously assess danger to our
immediate survival and long term choices for offspring, blah blah, as someone ugly may harbor genetic issues, those not following societal norms for
how they look or dress may be dangerous but we're not talking someone along such lines even if they have any value for survival, but my pont is that
as much as I detest cruelty and bullying and such, that years of brainwashing from Subconcious and subliminal
calls have made many of the problems we have for automatically judging someone and their perceived worth not only has turned many of us into shallow
jerks that automatically and subconsciously judge others for pointless reasons but also judge and constantly monitor ourselves.
I can't count the number of times I have not done something I wanted to o would have most probably enjoyed to fear of what others woud think, even
when those people already regard me as beneath contempt for no reason. And I'm not talking about anything that would harm any living creature or
infringe on others or damage anything.so I generally am not very happy, could be much worse (I too have experienced over a year of unemployment,
having to move back to my dads as an adult, etc, so very cognizant of having to do things for simple survival - but even though things have gotten
better than those nightmarish times, I don't feel very happy, and wonder if I'd simply stop being afraid of what others migh think say or do and
live for myself and do those little and not so little things I really want, then how much better and more fulfilling would my life be? Perhaps it
would even out all those things that I have to do at the present (working at a job that would enjoy far better if there weren't so many nasty mean
people, living in an area I swore I'd never return to nice I was old enough to leave, etc etc) - perhaps it would help balance ths all out.
As much as fear, I think most of us avoid doing things we want because we don't to rock the boat - ie not only draw attention to ourselves from those
mystery masses of disproving others, but bring about unwanted but potentially necessary actions should what want to goes wrong when we finally do it.
Finally asked out that person you had a crush on and they said Yes! But turned out to have even more issues than I do and now want to just be
friends...broke into song in the lunch room and was a hit but now being asked to sing in front of an auditorium...
Of course these follow up things are obviously just more fears, but demonstrates that sometimes maintaining te status quo is as much due to fear as it
is to compromising and deciding to keep a current mediocre but known situation as the risk isn't worth it, at least at at present, but totally agree
the idea has significant practical applications!