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Originally posted by SilentKillah
Originally posted by Char-Lee
reply to post by jhn7537
I found out by credit card charges which made no sense. I did the book keeping for our business so I had a reason to look. He lied each time I decided to ask about something but finaly I got the courage to LOOK.
This right here kills me. My wife has a reason to look at whatever she wants because I'm her husband and I gave her that right as soon as I said "I Do". There's no infidelity with money. There's no hiding. It's open communication. I chose it... she chose it. Business or not, if you're married, you should feel the same way. Eased a lot of stress off of my back these past 8 years... that's for sure. The first 4 or so where pretty rough.
Of course jhn7537 hasn't crossed that line yet. but you live and learn.
Originally posted by Lulzaroonie
OP, I hope this isn't horribly inconsiderate, but I was wondering, if when you have had the chat, if you can come back and tell us how it went? Some of us have been checking in regularly to make sure you're ok
Originally posted by PLAYERONE01
``ok Bro im gonna tell it to you straight. Heff is right 100%.
But what you have to do bro is take a big cup of concrete and harden the hell up, because when this goes down if you get blind sided you will go to water, and you are the one now that has to end it. get all your affairs in order, your bank account details if you share any accounts, all your passwords get them changed, any bills that are joined get your name off them and get ready to bug out. your time is up bro and her plan will be to dump it all on you and bail.
check all your utility bills and make sure they are up to date.
this could end in a very very bad situation for you if you dont have your head on straight, save your emotion to let out with your mates when your having a drink and get out in one piece, clean.
and dont think her family and friends dont know, maybe even some of yours, they just cant bare to tell you, save the questions for later.
just get the stuff out that's important to you,your memory's, old stuff, everything else is #, you can start again
and dont take her back, you think you feel like your being eaten from the inside out now, if you take her back man she will be like it never happened in a week telling you to move on, giving you no answers, it will kill you on the inside.
dont worry once your out it will take at least 3 weeks its like withdrawal but you will be ok, i done it the hard way, you have an opportunity to get out, and take the upper hand, and catch her off guard. don't let it pass. if she gains emotional control over you she will use it to her full advantage to manipulate you.
and bro, one last thing, she will lie about everything, everything, she wont even be the person you thought she was. im sorry man.