Hello OP, I have some advice for you for your predicament, firstly I know this is hard but she has been having an emotional affair on you, she
admitted she flirts....she's flirting with other men because you're not making her feel wanted. Emotional affairs tend to be physical and since this
has been building up she has been testing the waters with other men while being in a relationship with you.
Now the typical reaction will be jealousy, she will use this against you and her volume will go up because she's being defensive, this will lead to
more fights and more problems.
Being hurt is another one, feeling betrayed might lead to anger or it could lead to revenge, you might start looking for someone else also.
Trying to stop someone from being unfaithful is a hard lesson, the lesson is to nurture them and make them realize that they aren't looking or wanting
You can confront her, but confronting the man first and getting all the facts straight helps, be upfront and be honest with the man if you choose to
talk to him first. Chances are he will tell you everything if you approach him honestly.
If she notices that you're seemingly interested in someone else , you could make her so jealous that she refocuses strictly on you, honestly it's a
mental thing, if you walk around thinking ' what crazy woman would ever cheat on this prime man meat" you won't have as much anxiety and partners pick
up on this also.
Whenever my woman gets out of hand I let her know real quick, I keep half my belongings bagged up so I can leave in a heartbeat.
* i wouldn't but keeping someone on a precepice of potential loss WILL garner attention, nothing is more precious then when you're about to lose it
Do not let her have this power over you, it's time for you to make the mental resolution to move on, you're young just don't come off as desperate and
you'll find someone 10x better than your cheating whore of a stupid ex who is too much of a jerk to work through problems.
Whenever someone confides in different person it means they feel as though they can't share personal things with you, somewhere along the line of this
relationship it grew stagnant and you guys grew apart. You didn't see this, you thought everything was going great but a little boring, right?
As for what I would do personally....I heard I'm easy on the eyes and fun in the sack....there's easily someone else that can be their stunt
28 is young enough to start again or at least to focus on you and your life again instead of someone elses. Look man, this chick was only holding you
back, you're going to be way better off without her. She's just another dumb human scumbag who doesn't know the word honor that only cares for self
perservation and uses stupid logic to rationalize her actions as your fault.
I apoligize if my words come out a little schiz, I really want to pour my experiences and heart out to you but I can feel the hurt in your typed
words.....please try not to self destruct...take a vacation solo instead....
Do not look at time invested and think of it as a waste, you've learned a lot in those past 7 years, this will serve you in finding a true
relationship with a true partner in every sence of word. Never for 1 second consider this a loss of 7 years, you were not in prison, you were still
living life, you have grown and you have learned.
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