posted on Mar, 24 2013 @ 07:15 PM
reply to post by XxNightAngelusxX
Everyone is confusing my personal beliefs with the purpose of my rant. I am not ranting against gay marriage in itself. I'm ranting against the
ignorance surrounding it, and how my personal beliefs often offend the people around me who ASK me for my opinions. If I don't full-on promote it,
then I am a gay basher. In fact, it seems as though there are some people here on ATS taking it too personally as well.
I'm sorry, but you need to be a bit more clear. I don't think anyone is expecting you to engage in gay sex or be comfortable watching it to be
"tolerant". I don't like eating meat, but I'm not going to hate people for it or insist they not eat it.
That's the rub in the end, I don't think anyone is insisting you get gay married or even be comfortable with it. People are just asking to be able to
live their lives in the way they choose. As it's not hurting anyone...who cares? There are sexual fetishes I am not comfortable with and certainly
wouldn't engage in, but I don't believe in banning them because of my feelings. They are not hurting anyone so it's not my business. I don't engage in
gay sex and frankly, I wouldn't watch it either, but I'm not going to try to stop it. No one is asking you to like it, they are just asking you to
leave them alone to live their lives.
As for the ones that do demand you "like" it...Well they are just being jerks. That's to be expected of anyone in our world. Do you know how many
people have threatened me with extreme physical violence because I don't like Maria Callas' singing? What a trivial thing, but in the end it's
important to someone. You will find certain people wrap their identity up in their sexual preferences, cultural consumption, choice of clothing,
political ideology, etc. and will take great offense to you not "liking" it. They take it as a rejection of their person. You can't win with people
like that and you shouldn't take it as a statement on an entire segment of the population.
As for those talking about not being liked at the gay bar...there are some reasons for that. It would be like a preppy going to goth night. Yes, one
should accept them and treat them with respect but, at the same time you need to be aware of the fact these are people who have always been put down
for being different. The place you are in is their safe haven, some people will never be comfortable with you because of that. I've never had that
problem, but then I've also had a similar experience in my life of being but down and berated for things I really couldn't help (being ugly mainly) so
I guess I'm a bit more sensitive to their mindset.
edit on 24-3-2013 by antonia because: opps