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Originally posted by stumason
Originally posted by Xaphan
People will clench their fists and stamp their feet and shout "sexism!", but sexism isn't the intent at all. It has been shown time and time again that mothers are much more important to a child's development than fathers are. People need to accept that the mother is the nurturer and the father is the provider.
I would argue until I am blue in the face that your wrong - totally wrong in fact. As long as the parent is supporting and loving, it matters not what sex they are.
Painting mothers as the best place for a child is what the courts do, yet time and again we're shown stories of kids being killed by the mother and/or their new partner - we hardly ever see any stories about Dad's doing that.
Now, I am not saying it doesn't happen, but it is also wrong to assume that mothers are the paragon of parenting and fathers are just an "also ran"...
Originally posted by starseedflower
reply to post by FyreByrd
You also do realize that the only quiet personal time for myself 100% alone that would be the drive to and from work, being good working parents implies a huge amount of energy both mental and physical
Originally posted by ollncasino
In the first 3 years of a baby's life, its brain doubles in size. When a mother, father or grandparent spends time with a baby, every giggle, every chuckle and every tickle is literally growing the child's brain.
In contrast, leaving a child under 3 in a nursery with a carer who typically doesn't really care that much about interacting with the baby, leads to the child very quickly feeling anxious and stressed, negatively impacting normal mental development.
A fascinating example of this in practice is Dr. Edward Tronick's Still Face Experiment.
It shows what happens when an attentive mum ceases to respond to her baby. It is a powerful warning of what can happen if an adult in charge of a baby doesn't really bother. You can see and hear the child's stress level rise within seconds.
High levels of group care before the age of two have been associated with increased anti-social behaviour. A recent study found young children cared for by their mothers did significantly better in developmental tests than those in any other sort of care.
Daily Mail
Still Face Experiment: Dr. Edward Tronick
Using the "Still Face" Experiment, in which a mother denies her baby attention for a short period of time, Tronick describes how prolonged lack of attention can move an infant from good socialization, to periods of bad but repairable socialization. In "ugly" situations the child does not receive any chance to return to the good, and may become stuck.
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Not only has a lack of early interaction with children been associated with stress and a lack of normal mental social development, a senior Scottish policeman and world-famous expert on violence has linked much of the crime he has studied with inadequate early child care.
John Carnochan, a senior Scottish policeman and world-famous expert on violence, linked the terrible things he's dealt with all his professional life to the inadequate care babies get.
Daily Mail
Don't get me wrong. I am not condemning working women who are forced to go out and work to make ends meet. What normal mother doesn't want to spend time with their small child rather than work?
It is wrong that many women are forced to go out and work to make ends meet.
edit on 24-3-2013 by ollncasino because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by starseedflower
In my family I am the third generation of full-time working mums: my granny worked for the city council, my mum was a biologist and I work within a quiet busy sales office environment. My mother-in-law was a full-time working nurse and needless to say we all (including my two sons 18 and 8) turned out to be responsible people with a very caring attitude towards fellow humans. No emotional distress, no shrinks and no pills needed.
Whoever thinks that children of working mums are missing out on anything like love, attention, care or quality time is badly mistaken!
How many stay at home mums read every single evening to their children? There are plenty of dissatisfied stay at home mums letting their frustrations out on their kids though!
In the end of the day we are all responsible for ourselves and must have some occupation/work in life that goes beyond regular family life and not only provides the finances necessary for a living but also provides a life lesson on responsibility to kids.
Got the impression some people here still think that working mums/dads do not bake cakes, or cook home made pasta sauce, or do not clean the house, or do not do homework with their kids, or do not play/laugh with their children, or do not drive them to Scouts, music lessons, sports activities etc.
Not only that, we even find time to dedicate to charity and actively involve the children!
Originally posted by ollncasino
In the first 3 years of a baby's life, its brain doubles in size. When a mother, father or grandparent spends time with