posted on Mar, 21 2013 @ 07:03 AM
Thank you very much, JustMike, for the reminder that this can be very traumatic for some to talk or think about, so some sensitivity would be kind and
appropriate. I also very much agree about the narrowness of the way some people think about rape, and for the OP, it seems as simple as the physcial
circumstances of the sexual act. when it is really far more complex than that.
Rape is about domination, anger, degradation, control, humiliation. a whole lot more, and maybe mostly not at all, about sex. Given that, and once
you understand that, the physical circumstances become less important and the dynamics and manipulation of the situation emotionally and how complex
that can be, informs the situation in an entirely different manner.
To the OP, I think you are limiting it physical force in the way that you seem to be betrays a lack of understanding of the manipulative, humiliating
nature of the crime. In fact, a lot of this question seems to be about how can a man be raped by a woman, when necessarily he must be aroused to
perform the act, or participate, to be blunt. When one of the most humiliating aspects of rape can be not wanting to have sex on any level
consciously, but at some point, your body betraying you because it operates on a biological, physiological level that sometimes has nothing to do with
consciousness, intellect and the intent of those. In this case, this is the most humiliating, degrading aspect of rape. That domiination over the
victim is the damage that haunts one forever.