My wife turns everything I say against me, she has constant and inappropriate criticism about me when we are alone, and is always defensive when it
comes to her own actions; she can’t take the slightest remark against her. She never appreciates things that are done around the home, she has no
intimacy and leans towards a sexless marriage. She hates it when I talk with friends, or when I plan on doing some sort of social thing like fishing,
going to a ball game, target shooting, etc… even though she says it’s OK to do it, I can still see it in her expressions.
Been married 25 years, and for the most part I ignore the above, I know I should have ran a long time ago… but I didn’t, mostly for my child’s
sake, who knows?, maybe I have saved someone else from this miserable life style I’m in. I have looked back on my life just to reflect on how I use
to be, then it suddenly dawns on me… this has compromised my emotional behavior badly. I’m am now just as messed up as she is and I truly
don’t know how much longer I can go and keep my emotional sanity. What in the hell have I done to myself…
She has been a good mother, and a hard worker in which I’m glad of, especially due to fact I’m unemployed at the moment. We have worked hard
together to have the things we have; we are blessed, because most everything is paid in full. Oh! Let me remind you that being unemployed comes with
the constant criticism as mentioned above… note to self, “remember when you worked you never had enough time to spend at home” how ironic is
I have been to consoling, wife refused… she didn’t like what she was told btw, this was years ago, I listened to his advise and I’m aware of
everything he said about the relationship, he was right, and it is manageable so long as you don’t get emotional compromised by it… people are
people and will sometimes will be who they are, it’s up to you, if you can live with it.
Funny thing that my son (25 years old now) asked me a couple of years ago… Why are you still married? I couldn’t live like that… Has this
affected him?… absolutely he is still single and very careful of who and what type of women he wants to spend his life with.
edit on 3/20/2013 by Shdak because: spelling