reply to post by Starwise
Starwise and others on this thread, what you have endured and overcome is in my mind a testament to the beauty and strength of the human soul, thank
you for speaking up and shedding light on a topic that has universal significance to humans everywhere. Starwise, you mentioned balance in your post.
This is my long, but sincere response:
I think rape has a lot to do with power and control. I don't deny the sexual aspect of it, but I think often the sex is just a means to induce
humiliation and shame. It sends the clear message "I am stronger than you, I can make you do something you don't want to...I am in control"
Whether it is a man raping(or beating) a woman, a woman raping(or beating) a man or a man raping(or beating) another man, the effects are the same. So
to get to the root of it, we need to understand why some people have this overwhelming need to be in control and have power over others. They violate
a persons free will which is what I find most disturbing. It takes away their personal and IMO god given sovereignty and reduces them to an object,
often leaving them stripped of their humanity.
As long as the sun has risen and set humans have been engaged in these power struggles. At some point, men discovered they were physically superior
to women(as well as physically weaker men) and could use this to their advantage. I suspect this is perhaps one way how matriarchal societies fell to
patriarchal ones. Once man seized his power and was aware of it they have been in the drivers seat ever since.
Women, realizing physically they were no match for the brute force of men, adapted their own ways of seizing power and they used the only tools they
were allowed to have, their bodies and their minds. This was not something that women wanted to do, it was a survival strategy. Less dominant men also
learned these strategies of control, so manipulation is not isolated just to women, though it became more often used by them. Now when men in todays
world complain about women being manipulative, or using their good looks to get what they want, they need to understand....this is a hold over from
the times when it was the only way women had to assert themselves in a male controlled society. I am not making excuses for this behavior in our
current society, just showing why I think it still exists.
These power struggles have left deep wounds on both men and women, and they need to stop. There is a terrible imbalance of power and I am not
referring to just the male dominance variety, women have also fell into the trap of craving power over men. We as humans should have overcome this
obsession for power by now, but yet it seems even in the year 2013 we are just as power hungry as we were in ancient times. I ask myself often, is
this lust for control really in our nature and insurmountable? Or is this desire one that can be overcome?
I don't know, but I believe that it can be overcome, when we realize that seeking to force others to bend to our will is not the solution, whether by
physical force or mental/emotional manipulation. No man or woman should have their free will removed, everyone's personal bodily sovereignty must be
respected and we need to teach our children this is true. Then and only then will harmony be possible and these terrible acts be a thing of the past.