posted on Mar, 22 2013 @ 02:23 PM
I think all these horror stories are horrific.
If your story is in fact true, I feel for you, but you all have to decide for yourselves how it is going to dictate the rest of your life. You either
control it, or it will control you.
I met a very attractive lady in Sydney Nova Scotia a few years ago. She was drop dead gorgeous, a very professional person, who looked after herself,
dressed nice, had nice things, a home a nice car, ect.
I was there and helping a good friend do a re fit on a C&C 44, that him and his wife were going to go offshore in for a few years. Sometimes you meet
someone just by chance, and sparks fly, and there is an instant attraction, that is the way it was with us.
So we dated for about 6 weeks, I tried to spend as much free time with her as I could afford, we adored one another, she was in my eyes perfect. She
had her own $ and was not at interested in mine, she was sensual, and out of mutual respect we moved very slowly in the relationship when it came to
At around the 7 week mark, and after me spending the last 3-4 weeks sleeping at her place, it was time to have full blown hard core sex. It progressed
And as we approached that lovely shore together, she had a complete meltdown, where she could not allow herself to perform the act itself.
It was like a switch was flicked in our relationship, I had no idea she had been previously traumatized by a former lover, it never came up, I never
asked, she never said anything that would lead me to believe that had happened previously. I respected her slow approach to SEX, it was refreshing,
and a world away from the fast woman, and instant sex I had lived for years prior.
Once she let this all out of the bag, she somehow changed as a person, not in my eyes, but in her own actions towards our relationship.
It was almost like the disclosure about it had no choice but to upset the great thing we had going.
I was 100% powerless to get it back on track, and it dwindled away faster than the last rose of summer.
It was not my choice at the time, it was hers.
Although bad things have HAPPENED to you in the PAS, do not let it CONTINUE to dictate negative energy into your present life.
You deserve better than that stigma, don't let it get in your way, get rid of it like yesterdays newspaper, don't let it destroy anything that could
be good in your future.
It is your life, get control of it.
Be a past victim all your life.