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reply to post by luciddream
If you answer is NO, that they would not done that to another completely different person, then the victim does hold some sort of responsibility the lead up to the actual event that caused the rapist to target that particular person. Although that action was caused by the rapist.
Originally posted by g146541
Originally posted by heyitsok
Originally posted by g146541
reply to post by Starwise
Terrible things happen to all people, that is the sad fact.
The strong people get up every morning and put on their war face and do the task at hand.
I wouldn't wish PTSD on my worst enemy. Nobody who has had it or had a loved one who had it would ever say such a thing.
I'm stronger than most people I've ever met, yet I have had PTSD, and it is hell. The worst kind of hell.
Have had...
Got it cured did you?
PTSD has been around for a long time but it was pretty much limited to people who had seen killing up close and personal, now anyone can have PTSD...
Maybe because it comes with meds and a possible S.S.I. payday would be my guess.
Like I said, The strong people get up every morning and put on their war face and do the task at hand.
You are right though, I would not wish true PTSD on anyone.
However, making stupid choices does not negate the responsibility of the criminal. If I chose to walk down a dark alleyway known for a high rate of mugging, and I get mugged....well, I was stupid. But the mugger is still 100% responsible for what he/she did.
However, making stupid choices does not negate the responsibility of the criminal. If I chose to walk down a dark alleyway known for a high rate of mugging, and I get mugged....well, I was stupid. But the mugger is still 100% responsible for what he/she did.
Two teenage girls were charged with menacing today for allegedly threatening the victim in the Steubenville, Ohio, rape case via Twitter and Facebook, Ohio Attorney General Mike DeWine announced. “Let me be clear,” DeWine said in a news release on his website announcing the arrests this evening. “Threatening a teenage rape victim will not be tolerated. If anyone makes a threat verbally or via the Internet, we will take it seriously, we will find you, and we will arrest you.”
Originally posted by heyitsok
Originally posted by g146541
Originally posted by heyitsok
Originally posted by g146541
reply to post by Starwise
Terrible things happen to all people, that is the sad fact.
The strong people get up every morning and put on their war face and do the task at hand.
I wouldn't wish PTSD on my worst enemy. Nobody who has had it or had a loved one who had it would ever say such a thing.
I'm stronger than most people I've ever met, yet I have had PTSD, and it is hell. The worst kind of hell.
Have had...
Got it cured did you?
PTSD has been around for a long time but it was pretty much limited to people who had seen killing up close and personal, now anyone can have PTSD...
Maybe because it comes with meds and a possible S.S.I. payday would be my guess.
Like I said, The strong people get up every morning and put on their war face and do the task at hand.
You are right though, I would not wish true PTSD on anyone.
I am still scanning all around me every time I leave the house, and everyone I see in the store or walking on the sidewalk could be this one person, even though I suspect he is dead.
Originally posted by g146541
reply to post by heyitsok
Not trying to be mean here, but the only thing I ever sugar coat are some of my recipes.
I have not had a hard life, maybe because of how I view things.
I have, on more than a few occasions gone to work with gashes and broken bones, only because if I didn't, nobody would do it for me.
The human body and mind is capable of so much more than many think it is, just most never push the envelope.
But I laugh about the "bad" old days, it is who I am, it made me my happy screwed up self!
I am just a simple retired plumber with failing health.
I just have a weakness for looking at life and saying, "Come at me Bro"!!
Originally posted by luciddream
reply to post by seeker11
The responsibility varies with situation and the individual relationship, if its a rape between spouse, the responsibility for both would be pretty high. I think having a mind set that you(general) had no responsibility is a bad advice, it would just make more victims.
However, i never said you did, the question was not directed at you.
What do you think? does the victim, should hold absolute 0% responsibility? would you go promote that mind set to young group?edit on 3/21/2013 by luciddream because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Starwise
Originally posted by heyitsok
Originally posted by g146541
Originally posted by heyitsok
Originally posted by g146541
reply to post by Starwise
Terrible things happen to all people, that is the sad fact.
The strong people get up every morning and put on their war face and do the task at hand.
I wouldn't wish PTSD on my worst enemy. Nobody who has had it or had a loved one who had it would ever say such a thing.
I'm stronger than most people I've ever met, yet I have had PTSD, and it is hell. The worst kind of hell.
Have had...
Got it cured did you?
PTSD has been around for a long time but it was pretty much limited to people who had seen killing up close and personal, now anyone can have PTSD...
Maybe because it comes with meds and a possible S.S.I. payday would be my guess.
Like I said, The strong people get up every morning and put on their war face and do the task at hand.
You are right though, I would not wish true PTSD on anyone.
I am still scanning all around me every time I leave the house, and everyone I see in the store or walking on the sidewalk could be this one person, even though I suspect he is dead.
That may never go away. It is now built into your protective armor. After 20 years, I am very hyper vigilant about my location, time, parking spot, CHILDREN, hairstyle, clothing etc.......I carry mace, a whistle, gun, and am always on guard......
That may sound a little paranoid......but once you have been assaulted, it changes who you are and makes you very aware...nothing is wrong with being aware of your surroundings IMO!! Sometimes when I go to sleep at night I have nightmares too, and awaken with anger, but I am able to brush that off and move on with my day.
This is a crazy world we live in, and it only seems to get crazier and more surreal every day.......(((hugs)))
Originally posted by 00nunya00
Originally posted by MotherMayEye
Originally posted by 00nunya00
I agree with your first statement, and disagree with the *eventuality* of your second.
I agree that a woman who wears next to nothing and goes out and gets too drunk has the right to wake up hungover for her mistakes and nothing more. However, I think the latter part is where we start taking things too far just because some stupid moron made some ridiculous statement at some point in the past, and now we have twisted the statement in our own statement of rights.
If I put on a skirt that shows my thong and almost my crotch, and go downtown and get drunk to where I can't be trusted to drive, and park myself in a bar full of drunk frat boys, what am I expecting? What am I "asking for" in all senses of the word? It's like the old debate about where our first amendment rights end; do I have the right to go into an airport and scream "BOMB BOMB BOMB!!!" even though I'm not actually making any sort of threat, and expect not to be arrested for the impression I'm giving off? No.
Going into an airport and yelling "BOMB BOMB BOMB!!!" is a crime, even if it's not a real threat. So yes, you should expect to be arrested and you deserve to be arrested. Dressing in a bra and thong and going into a crowd of drunken men may likely be indecent exposure and you should expect to be arrested and you deserve to be arrested -- but you don't deserve to be raped.
But we know 1 in 4 women are raped in her lifetime so it should not surprise a woman that she is raped after dressing in a bra and thong and going into a crowd of drunken men. But she still has every right to do just that and NOT be raped. Rape is not an acceptable punishment for indecent exposure. As I said earlier, she should fear it, but she's not to blame for anything but having bad judgment.
You're fighting against a straw man there. Only your very last statement acknowledges what my entire post was about. She has the right to not be raped, but SHE SHOULD EXPECT IT. Period. End of story. Will I tell my daughter she has the right to walk half-naked and drunk in a crowd of frat boys and expect to not be raped? The answer to that lies in whether she wants to get raped or not. If no, then she should never, ever walk half-naked and drunk into a crowd of drunken men, nor have the mindset that she "has the right" to do that. I will make sure those men get the jail time they deserve if they do, but I won't congratulate her and call her a hero if she does, nor fill her head with the lie that she "has that right". Because she doesn't.