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Originally posted by Sublimecraft
You will never know if you don't give it a go.
Get out of your comfort zone and listen to your instincts.
The worst response you can get is........NO.
Then you are in the same position you already are.
Worth a try really, don't ya reckon?
If it's meant to be, it's meant to be...............
Bumping into her by 'accident'sounds just like creepy stalker stuff to me.
Originally posted by grey580
reply to post by dave_welch
Wow. Let's stay away from the creepy stalker stuff.
If I were you. I'd bump into her by accident somewhere. Don't go to her house.
Be like, "Hey I haven't seen you in ages. Why don't we go have some drinks and catch up."
And if it doesn't work out. Cut your losses and move on.
Anyway, this post has to deal with my most recent infatuation. I've known her since high school. We were always pretty good friends, though I never worked up the courage to ask her out back then, as I was plagued with confidence problems back then.
About a week ago, she deleted her facebook. I don't think she was trying to avoid me, though I could be wrong. Anyway, it couldn't have happened at a worse time, as I was going to just come clean and tell her how I feel. But, now I have no way of getting a hold of her. She only lives 5 minutes away, but I don't want to be rude and just show up un-announced.
(1) You still have "infatuations"... that's a school-boy crush, in other words. The kind where you have to suddenly bend down and tie your shoe if you think about it too much. The problem with this is that we tend to inject our fantasies into the situation, and we make the person out to be what we'd like in our minds.
(2) Because of these infatuation-based fantasies, we over-dramatize each potential situation, having to "work up the nerve to do this or that, etc" when you should just try to get to know the person. If you end up in the friend zone, that's GREAT because you now have a chance to really get to know the person and let things naturally take their course. If she keeps you in the friend zone, it's not because of what you did, it's because her biology is telling her to choose someone else.
Should I just go over there and talk to her, or should I just forget about it?
Originally posted by dave_welch
Thanks Everybody, looks like Consensus is to go over and say hi at least, so that's the plan. Thanks a lot everybody!
Originally posted by Gazrok
reply to post by Akragon
He won't get any answers that way...