So, the unthinkable has happened once again.
Many of you may remember my recent thread,Avoiding The "Friend Zone"
. In this thread
I explained my Friend Zone avoidance theory, and how it is the path I believe one should take when faced with that particular situation. I still
believe that it's the best course of action.
Anyway, this post has to deal with my most recent infatuation. I've known her since high school. We were always pretty good friends, though I never
worked up the courage to ask her out back then, as I was plagued with confidence problems back then. Well, you know how this story goes, boy and girl
hit it off, boy graduates, boy goes to work, boy and girl grow apart, boy tries to conquer the world and doesn't see or talk to girl for 5 years.
Anyway, I recently started hanging out with her, just as friends, but there were sparks, that I think were mutually felt. I was a little slow to pick
up on her hints though (Damn you, women, with your ridiculous subtleties.) I just figured we were friends and that was it. Even after she drunk texted
me hinting towards how she actually felt about me.
Part of the reason I have behaved the way I have was that I didn't want to ruin a friendship, by thinking that we felt the same way for eachother,
when it was only me with such feelings (which I'm pretty certain was not the case now). The other part is this; She has 2 kids, not that that's a
problem for me, but she's technically still married to they're father, though they've been separated for over 2 years. I just don't want to
confuse her kids, I like them alot and don't want to cause them any grief (they are ages 6 and 4).
Anyway, times are tough in our neck of the woods, I no longer have a cell phone, and she recently had to have hers shut off until she can get another
job. But, we always contacted each other through Facebook anyway. About a week ago, she deleted her facebook. I don't think she was trying to avoid
me, though I could be wrong. Anyway, it couldn't have happened at a worse time, as I was going to just come clean and tell her how I feel. But, now I
have no way of getting a hold of her. She only lives 5 minutes away, but I don't want to be rude and just show up un-announced.
Should I just go over there and talk to her, or should I just forget about it?
Please refrain from wise-cracks on this one, guys. I really need the help right now.