I prefer the system as it is at the moment, because getting the U2U Inbox on too much can be off-putting, and somewhat nerve-racking (since it often
implies a post warning or something unpleasant and potentially upsetting).
I recall ATS video updates at a stage that alerted members to an U2U all the time, and a lot of people didn't like that.
People are far more likely to befriend others than become a foe, and U2U should be used sparingly (unless one has a private exchange going).
As a new member, for example, I recall befriending loads of people in one evening.
If you really want to alert another member of your friendship, I'd say U2U them, or leave a message on their profile.
Otherwise check your profile regularly.
You could even leave a message on your profile requesting that people message you if they become your friends.
I don't think all support that members show for each other should be forced with an instant message.
This is where members can also be pro-active and check their profile, if they care.
At present I like that we don't have a clutter of officialdom, or the encouragement of Facebook-like cliques, based on "adding friends", "likes" and
"one-liners" just to reciprocate.
Having the U2U alert on every time one quickly logs on can be irritating and distracting.
That's my taste, but admin might respond to changing trends and requests.
edit on 12-3-2013 by halfoldman because: (no reason given)