Originally posted by phyllida
reply to post by rimjaja
I have three children with large age gaps between them, and the differences between them all are quite revealing. My eldest son at 29 is imaginative,
can string more than 2 words together, doesn't spend all day online, has the lost art of common sense to a degree (he is male after all lol) and can
boil and egg. My middle daughter 23 is almost there but believes every word that comes from mainstream media, has a vague idea that a kitchen is for
cooking in but can still burn water, and is willing to listen to alternative views arguments and debates. My youngest daughter 15 thinks the word
black is racist, believes racism is worse than being a paedophile (her words) is constantly on facebook trolling for people to berate for their
"racist" views, believes that guns, knives, immigration laws, christmas (except for the pressies) should all be banned and we should live in this
utopian ideal where everyone is lovely. She is constantly in tears and constantly going through various traumas because she can't cope with mild
insults (that's now bullying apparently) is permanently going to her school counsellor to report this kid or that kid for racist remarks or bullying
tactics, reported a teacher for alleged racist comments and is generally severely brainwashed.
I am hopeful that over the years I will be able to let her see there is more to life but alas my own viewpoint is that I cannot live her life, I can
only teach by example and I have no choice but to trust she will "see the light" if you will. Its worrying
These are your children. It is your place, as a parent, to teach them to cook, to teach them to think, to teach them to live. Schools aren't meant to
be the place they learn how to be PEOPLE, that's the parent's job.
Granted, in today's time, the school has had to step in and try to pick up the slack, but that's because parents weren't doing what parents are
supposed to do. The schools did step in and try to make up for the poor parenting that was going on, but they can only go so far and can also only go
as far as the "general public" will allow them to go. If you have religious views, family views, skills, traditions and so on, it's your job as a
parent to teach those, not the job of the school.
If you want your child to know how to cook, spend time with them in the kitchen. If you want your child to have the same values you have, you have to
teach those values to them. It's not the job of the school to read your mind, know your family history, use ESP to decide what you want the child to
know and then impart it to them. That's the job of the parent and parents aren't stepping up these days.
What we have is the children of the children from the baby boom generation where parents decided to let their children "explore freely man..."
instead of teaching them basic skills, disciplining them for misbehavior, cuddling and spoon feeding them until they were 30... the parents don't
know how to be parents, they don't know how to raise children because they weren't raised themselves.
Take into careful consideration that the baby-boomers are very tied in with the tea party these days. Look at that platform, look at the activities,
they are the activities of the people who didn't raise their children, didn't work a steady job, didn't do what "society" told them to do and now
they are upset that their children and grandchildren don't act like their parents and grandparents.
It's a society who has perpetually laid the blame on everyone else but themselves. They don't take responsibility, they try to pass the buck. They
are still doing it and their offspring is doing it as well.