posted on Mar, 9 2013 @ 07:42 AM
reply to post by AthlonSavage
while i see things i agree with in both of your points, i lean more towards what arpgme has posted... a mixture of eating lunch and fathering prevents
me from deeper involvement at pres (a happy enslavement? is such a thing possible?) but what he/she posted re the use of heirarchy and it's being a
social construct rang particularly true for me.
when seeing your thread title, the first thought i had was "what about us who seek to co-operate?"... i also feel that LL's suggestion that we are
all control freaks is innaccurate from my own POV - we all seek control in certain ways ofc, that is the nature of ego and the need to provide for
ourselves, though the "freak" element for me implies that it has gone to an extreme, beit by difficulty in securing neccessary resources, being
greedy w/e etc..
someone also mentioned consenual sexual dominance/submission - however this misses the concept of "topping from the bottom" as such, ie: the
percieved sub being in as much "control" as the dom, or arguably more so.
it's a fascinating question you pose, and i feel that we can really only answer from our own perspectives - i dont see an absolute answer to this due
to the complexity of motivations and relationships.
also, i dont think my view on whether i agree more with yourself or another poster changes my question as to which you are, it's your opinion i
asked, not my own
overall for me, i'd like to see myself as outside of that equation in general relationship terms, though i will exert my will within certain bounds,
judged individually. i will also concede points where i wanted a particular outcome and would have otherwise resisted - for reasons of personal
relationships and my care for other's needs...
i feel that this makes me co-operative rather than enslaved on an issue. the dualistic approach is over simplifying a lot of issues i reckon..