reply to post by DOLCOTT
Life-long monogamy is a very nice ideal in principle, and some religions do teach that.
You wouldn't have a guarantee that your marriage partner is totally faithful, but I'm sure this works in some relationships.
In reality however this doesn't work as the only message on prevention.
A study of 11 000 US teens who had signed an abstinence until married pledge found that 72 percent had sex before marriage, and they were less likely
to use condoms. (Elzabeth Pisani: The Wisdom of Whores: Bureaucrats, brothels and the business of AIDS
, Granta Books: 2008. P. 190-191).
Religious organizations themselves are rocked by daily scandals when the leaders fail to live up to their message.
The provision of condoms in prisons (especially important for communities with high rates of incarnation), clean needles for addicts, and prevention
work amongst prostitutes have also been shown to be effective in curbing STDs, Yet they are often moralized by religious groups with political
influence, even on a global scale.
Migrant labor (as we have in SA) often means that families are split and men could spend most of their lives without seeing their wives in rural
Clearly this necessitates alternative sexual networks, just as colonial men once frequently practiced concubinage with native women.
Even religion once regarded prostitution as a necessary evil to save the institution of marriage.
Women in Western countries no longer want to get married at 13, and many want to get an education before marriage (unless they are in a religious cult
that practices the sexual grooming of girls by older men) and the average age of marriage can be as high as 28. It's a bit much to expect young people
in their prime to remain celibate into their twenties.
So the ideal is great, but in reality it won't work for most people.
In some rigid communities it seems to work to a greater degree.
In the reality series on the American Gypsies, for example, couples marry as teens, and will be pressured to do so.
However, the men are traditionally allowed affairs with non-gypsy women, and the education of girls outside household chores is considered unnecessary
(although nowadays I suppose some would choose a less traditional life).
edit on 5-3-2013 by halfoldman because: (no reason given)