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Hey, silo. I think that we might have been unclear in our conversation...we were referring to this guy as a sexual predator, which is a term that applies to people who prey on adults and people who prey on children. He is in a position of power and acted sexually "inappropriate" towards his subordinates and used his power to keep the people who were casualties of his "misconduct" quiet.
Sorry if we sounded like we were going all vigilante and "hang him from a tree for being a pedophile", we probably should've been more clear about it.
"So he got wasted and a little hot under the ol' ecclesiastical collar. Oh well. Not like it hasn’t happened to some of the best of us. Let’s not hang him from the wrong tree. "
That statement is belittling the suffering and trauma of the victims. I have to assume you've never been a victim of sexual abuse.
I've seen many of your posts over the years and to be honest I thought you were a better human than that. Very sad.
Originally posted by merkins
reply to post by jcutler12888
The biggest problem I have in my personal circumstances is how do you forgive someone for things they deny ever happened? And this is exactly what this predator cardinal did for years and years.
In a kind of twisted way I'm lucky that the sexual abuse was outside the family and nothing to do with them. As for physical and psychological abuse, well my parents, brother and sister, deny it ever happened. Phantom memories my arse. Do phantom memories leave physical scars?
Unfortuately despite being a tall and strong male, the phys, psych, & sexual abuse followed me into relationships and other areas of life, and has forever coloured my life with darkness. And trust? That's alien to me for the most part. I trust some ATS members more than I would people in real life and I've only been a member a few months.
How these priests can remain in that church that protected this predator is mindblowing to me? And you just know there are others who for many reasons have not come forward prseumably due to adverse affects on their careers and personal lives.
I behave very differently in every aspect of my life than I would have if I had ever been valued by others as I grew up.