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Originally posted by kimish
reply to post by ballymoney50
I think it's that nowadays most females want a "bad boy". Opening the car door doesn't equal that. It's the douchebags that get all the ladies. I fall into the "nice guy" category and I can't tell you how many times I've been dicked over. sigh. Someday though, some day Amanda Bynes will come looking for me.
Originally posted by Hiasyouwant
you really just have to set yourself apart from the hoard of guys messaging her. Be funny, be adventruous, and a lot of times she's like oh man, where did this guy come from? HE'S FUN.
I'm not a player per-se but you find when you stop trying as hard, and stop sending long overdrawn first messages, the more it works for you. And the more girls you get, the more that follow. Just chill, relax, be funny. The hardest thing to overcome is her first response. But if that's a barrier in your mind, then you already know the outcome. Sometimes the cheesier the better, but uniquely cheesey! "ehhh sooo I know this might sound weird but I realllyyyyyy need to borrow your genes for my future kids...!" Just to generate a response, once you do that you can continue the conversation, just make your focus to make her smile and laugh. Put your best pics up! Women are more shallow than they give themselves credit for. Try POF.COM. A lot of variety.
It's HER loss if she doesn't answer, you must remember that.
Originally posted by nenothtu
your problem may be in the..
Originally posted by circuitsports
go to plenty of fish, lower your standards a little and work upwards
Originally posted by openyourmind1262
1st question in online dating any dating site will do." How long have you been a member?" If they respond about two or three years, just move on along. Find the one that say's "Ive been a memebr about two weeks". If your a memeber of a dating site and you aint found someone in two or three years. YOU AINT GONNA FIND ANYBODY. You meet the ones that last a lifetime normally by mistake when your not looking any more. Certainly not on Psycho Date.comedit on 4-3-2013 by openyourmind1262 because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by Wang Tang
I decided to try out online dating because I haven't had a good record with relationships and I figured it would be easier to get a date online. Because of my bad record with relationships my confidence and ability to walk up to girls and sweep them away has pretty much disappeared. Once I get to a date I'm confident I will do fine, but getting to that point is a challenge... especially now and for at least another year because I will barely have any chances to get out and meet new girls. I'm in an environment with mostly guys and little chances to get out.
But how wrong I was about online dating! It seems every girl on these sites (okcupid, match.com) think they know exactly the guy they want and will only settle for a date with their perfect guy.
So far this online dating experience has been counter-productive, it's lowered my confidence with girls. If I can't get a date online, how can I get one in real life? I've sent a bunch of messages to girls (and I thought they were pretty charming messages) but got none back. In my profiles I am honest about myself and don't include superficial things that may make someone like me more but not for who I am.
Am I approaching this the wrong way? Should I filter out anything that girls might not want to see, and include all the superficial things that will make me look like the perfect guy? How do I message a girl to spark her interest? What do girls want to see on an online profile? Is it more important to be funny, or to say you have lots of money? Is it more important to say you are happy with where you are in life, or to say you are so ambitious you can never be satisfied?