reply to post by Kram09
Thank you, Kram. I believe that being open and honest about our stories is the first and best step that we can all take towards awareness of issues
(whether the issue is a person's experience with abuse or their experience with anxiety or otherwise) and helping others deal with those issues if
they have encountered or are encountering them in their lives.
Whenever I was a kid, if I had ever heard a lady speaking about how someone had hurt her and how it wasn't okay, maybe I would've gotten the courage
from that to have told someone what was happening and ended my abuse...I wish someone would've shared their story with me back then but no one did so
I lived in silence and fear, thinking there was something wrong with me for wanting to die when I was told I was supposed to enjoy what was being done
to me, and my abuse continued for SO many years when it could have stopped had someone said "This happened to me. If it happened to you, there is
nothing wrong with you and it is not your fault. You will be saved from being put through more and taken from that situation if you just tell
someone". And when I was with my husband, if a woman shared her story and said "I know a way out that is completely safe, let me show you the way",
I would've jumped at it in a heartbeat and been able to escape without almost losing my life...but nobody ever said anything like that or told their
story so I again lived in fear and my abuse went on for a lot longer than it would have if someone just would've shared their story and extended a
helping hand to me and any and everyone else going through that.
I think that by telling my story, someone who may have been through the same pain I went through but never told anyone or gotten help dealing with it
may see me speaking about my experiences and feel emboldened to go out and break the silence and begin their healing process. Or maybe someone who's
currently being abused will see my story and decide that enough is enough and get out of a bad situation. Hopefully people who have never been through
situations such as mine will see my story and be enraged at the thought of anyone doing that to their children, little brothers and sisters, little
nieces and nephews, friends' kids and their mothers, sisters, daughters, aunts, nieces, and best friends and maybe become a bit more aware of how
prevalent child and spousal abuse is in this country and hopefully it will start a fire in their hearts and they'll decide to try to help fight this
terrible problem whether they donate $5 to their local shelters and crisis centers or volunteer at a shelter's consignment store or just do anything
to help victims and battle this evil that is perpetrated against women and children from every age, socioeconomic class, race, neighborhood, city,
state, and nation on this earth EVERY DAY. That's what I dearly hope telling my story will do, I hope it will change the lives of those who read it,
if even in the littlest of ways, as long as it changes them for the better...and if it does, I will have accomplished my mission in telling my
Message to everyone reading this: I stayed silent for years. I was stuck in a Hell that I could've escaped had I known it were possible. I'm here to
tell anyone who's going through abuse or who has been through abuse that there is nothng wrong with you, it is not your fault, and it is possible to
escape, and there are so many people willing to help...break the silence...you will be glad that you did. And to those who haven't been through
abuse, any of your loved ones could be subject to such atrocities...hold them close and protect them, watch out for them, and if you can find it in
your heart to take the time, PLEASE give whatever you can to help victims and join in the fight against abuse.
Also, concerning my anxiety and PTSD...there is so much stigma attached to these issues and the people that have them, it simply isn't right. People
need to know that those who battle anxiety and PTSD aren't crazy...many have been through things like I have that caused my anxiety disorder and PTSD
and many have simple chemical imbalances that can easily be addressed if they aren't discouraged from seeking help due to fear of stigmatization. If
I can tell my story and show others that people who have anxiety issues and PTSD aren't crazy, they're just normal people dealing with a difficult
situation, maybe that will cut down on the discrimination and stigmatization. If someone dealing with anxiety or PTSD can read my story and see that
they aren't crazy, they are just dealing with a difficult situation, and be emboldened to seek help, then I will have again accomplished my mission
in telling my story.
Again, to everyone reading this: sometimes baring your soul can change the lives of others for the better. Don't be afraid to let your voice be heard
and your story be told.