Why is it that there exists reluctancy? Why is there such a caution in the wind that leads to not facing another human being and merely having a
conversation? By what merit does there exist any reason at all to even be hesitant upon simple, vocal, contact?
The reason is because as a society we are afraid of ourselves. It is not that I fear talking to a beautiful woman, it is that I fear disembowelment
and/or destruction of character; that I will walk up to a stranger seeking company and receive cold-hearted prideful rejection, based solely on poor
judgement. The fact that men cannot just walk to an acquaintance of opposite gender without immediate reaction to partnership makes me really sad for
how the world views interpersonal relationships.
Is it really a condition of social fallacy that repulses us from interaction? I guess what I am getting at is that there seems to be this unwritten
social contract of "want" dictating that both reason and motive for contact between opposite genders boils down to the preconceived notion of sex…
which ultimately ruins the public's perception of intimacy.
What happens when you walk up to someone (in a non-creepy and generous manner of course) and you tell them that they are pretty? Ok, that's a generic
example but what is the result? Generally a faked smile and some reason to leave arises, perhaps maybe some other "distraction" appears from nowhere
and to what avail? It is just a compliment, take it--at least that is the logical course of action. Maybe there could be some development of relation
afterwards, but the chips would land where they may and the range of possibilities span from all to naught.
The reason why this happen is because socially, for far too long, there have been males whose egos out wit their respect and thus resulting in females
needing to protect themselves through avoidance. It is sad really, compliments just don't mean anything and that makes feelings seem less genuine…
talk about ruining the mood.
And then we have this empowerment regime that has been happening since deep into the 1920s of woman… Something that on paper I am all for. I mean
there are the duhs like voting rights, and equal pay and treatment in the work place that in my opinion shouldn't even be questioned. But then there
is this certain feminism that has been growing for years and years that now has girls everywhere getting angry at small things even such as
handshakes… Handshakes! Ever tried to shake a woman's hand like that classy guy from any black and white movie does? It becomes a problem and
somehow demeans the woman to a slave or something, I haven't the clue. Trying to hold the door open for someone creates just the same product of
attrition, supposedly, and also de-powers a woman. I don't do those things because I think you are weak, I do them out of being polite and respectful.
In fact, I do it nearly for the exact same reasons as someone would for the president or the pope--don't try to tell me it is because people see them
The war on relationships, the declassification of being "gentleman" and an overall lack of confidence and faith in nobility has reduced this country
to a rather unhealthy state.
I don't know how this could possibly be fixed, but yet I know there is no probable resolution. This is less of a complaint than that of an
observation, as a side note, but I had to share anyway because it still gives me some extent of frustration. I mean I am smart funny and at the least
not ugly so why is it hard for girls to give a damn?
Society is just messed up I guess.
edit on 27-2-2013 by PhysicsAdept because: (no reason given)