I bet you are sorry you started this thread by now op?
I do understand your question and it seems that you ended up tip-toeing through a minefield of not appearing homophobic.
Two lesbian friends of mine always intrigued me one M. was absolutely stunning, feminine kind and a warm gentle soul.
Her girlfriend E. was very butch, literally the stereotype, she dressed as a man and was coarse, agressive and posessive wore a permanent scowl
(bulldog chewing a wasp) and voiced her dislike of all men at every opportunity.
I couldn't understand why if M. was attracted to girls why she could fancy someone who looked and acted like a man (and a damn ugly man at that).
I never found out, but experience has taught me since that human hearts and all the love, attraction and feelings that they generate are as numerous
and varied as the stars.
It's all part of what makes humanity so varied and interesting. So stop wondering because there are no end to the combinations of human
Discover what pleases you and let others do likewise.