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Originally posted by smithjustinb
reply to post by kthxbai
I definitely am serious.
Like I said. The intentions might have been benevolent, and the subject may have been pleased, but that doesn't make it any less insulting. The bottom line for me is, despite the emotional context of that moment, is that dude was put on a pity pedestal. Especially by the guy from the other team.
Originally posted by Amanda5
reply to post by kthxbai
I had to reply to these posts. I will state now - very clearly - I respect every individual and their right to an opinion. I am joining in as a reaction to what I have just read.
The young man who is at the heart of this thread - has parents - his mother was delighted. If there was even one iota of pity in any aspect of the school life and participation of her son - I imagine she would be the first person to demand the cessation of pity. The fact his mother is happy means she knows the intention of every action toward her son has been from the heart and with utmost respect. Her happiness is also rooted in the fact she has knowledge of all her sons schooling - not just the single game of basketball featured within the topic being discussed.
Whatever people think about the actions of all those invloved in the video - there was a time on this planet when Special Needs Children were locked away and treated with shame - let's not go backwards. While there is a lot of work to be done on this planet with regard to how we nurture and protect our Children - there was no abuse in this story - only kindness - inclusion - sense of belonging and a lot of happy screaming people at the end who didn't seem too interested in who had won the basketball game. Nathan won - surely everyone can see that!
Much Peace...
edit on 27-2-2013 by Amanda5 because: Grammar
Originally posted by smithjustinb
reply to post by kthxbai
It's not an opinion. You can't deny that their actions were motivated by pity. Sure they showed love, but out of pity.
Originally posted by digitalbluco
Doubt the kid found any of it insulting, he wouldn't of been so happy during it all if that were true. Perhaps he is challenged enough to not have the ability to see the negative ve sides of getting a ball passed to you from the other team. Maybe he just saw a really nice person who wanted to help him, so he took it, and made the shot without second thought.
Just never know.
Originally posted by headorheart
Originally posted by smithjustinb
reply to post by kthxbai
It's not an opinion. You can't deny that their actions were motivated by pity. Sure they showed love, but out of pity.
It that nessacarily a bad thing though? Sure they did what they did because they were sympathetic. It is the same as donating to a charity or helping a old lady carry groceries to her car. Those actions can arguably be initiated with pity. I don't see any harm though. I only see sympathy and love for others.
Originally posted by kthxbai
reply to post by smithjustinb
It's only insulting if someone involved views it as an insult. Nobody involved saw it that way, so it wasn't insulting.
Originally posted by kthxbai
reply to post by smithjustinb
It's only insulting if someone involved views it as an insult. Nobody involved saw it that way, so it wasn't insulting.
Originally posted by smithjustinb
It is to me. I know I don't want to be pitied. Unless I'm old, carrying groceries to my car, and they all start falling out of my hand because they're too heavy or something, I don't want help. I don't want people trying to be nice to help me just because I'm old. Even though they think they are doing a good deed, no. They're calling me old, except unlike the kid in the video, I see it. And it's insulting.
It would have been a good deed, probably, just to let the kid play. And then go about the normal routine with him a part of the team, actually doing what basketball players do- try to win. But they singled him out and put him on a pedestal. He didn't get to play basketball that day. He got to play everybody treat me different because I'm not as smart as you.
Originally posted by kthxbai
Perhaps, perhaps not...
My pity for you continues and I hope you are able to overcome the issues that you face.
My admiration goes to the opposing team member who helped to make the moment a great one for the other kid who had a great love for basketball and made a memory that can never be taken away.
edit on 2-3-2013 by kthxbai because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by smithjustinb
I'm telling you I don't want or need pity. Yet you're not respecting that. So how are you authorized to have a conversation about the fundamentals of respect if you do not practice it?