Originally posted by smithjustinb
It is to me. I know I don't want to be pitied. Unless I'm old, carrying groceries to my car, and they all start falling out of my hand because
they're too heavy or something, I don't want help. I don't want people trying to be nice to help me just because I'm old. Even though they think
they are doing a good deed, no. They're calling me old, except unlike the kid in the video, I see it. And it's insulting.
It would have been a good deed, probably, just to let the kid play. And then go about the normal routine with him a part of the team, actually doing
what basketball players do- try to win. But they singled him out and put him on a pedestal. He didn't get to play basketball that day. He got to play
everybody treat me different because I'm not as smart as you.
What you don't seem to be understanding is that in this thread, right now, due to your actions, I'm feeling pity for you. This isn't because you
merely have a lower intelligence, merely because you may be from a challenged background, merely because you don't have comprehension or experience
but because of the way you are reacting, by your own choice.
Instead of lashing out at you, calling you names, arguing and nitpicking, I'm taking the time to explain why these emotions are present in me and
others due to your actions. This is done out of pity/compassion. I feel sorry for you and I am taking my time and effort to explain why. I'm not "in
awe" of what you are saying or even feel "oh yeah, that guy has a point". No, I'm seeing it as someone who was probably hurt during their lifetime
and is lashing out at others who are getting some kind of support because you didn't get it and you feel jealousy and anger because of it. Those are
the reactions that are being produced here.
If I were to type out a bunch of name calling, attacks, hatefulness, etc, then that would be very insulting to you and I would be doing it out of
anger. However, I'm explaining the feelings created due to compassion, which is different from "insulting pity". If I wished to be insulting to
you, I'd be calling you names, laughing at you, pointing out all the issues in what you say, pulling in details to make you feel small and
What they did at the game wasn't done for the purpose of laughing at him or making him feel "stupid", it was done to give him an amount of
happiness, to bring a smile to his face, to create a memory that can't be taken away. The intention is EVERYTHING. They did it with love in their
hearts, kindness in their actions and for "the greater good". They didn't do what they did so they could laugh at him and make jokes and belittle
him. That is the key. .
I'm sorry that you have had so much pain in your life that you would see this event as insulting. I'm sorry that people have bullied or abused you
so much that you cannot be trusting of others or joyful for the compassion that people can display to others. However, you are an adult now and this
is something you will need to address in yourself either on your own or with the help of someone in a professional sense if you want to change it.
When you are able to let go of this hatred and self-hatred, it will make a big difference in your quality of life and I hope you come to the point
that you are able to do that.