posted on Feb, 25 2013 @ 10:29 PM
My husband and I both have Asperger's, so we're not big on sleeping all entwined together like a litter of cats. I am a super-light sleeper and a
touch would wake me up. As for him, touching means it's time for sex, not sleep.
Then there's the issue of him snoring at decible levels I'm sure violate noise ordinances, and me having to move and flop around in the bed because
of my rheumatoid arthritis, I have to keep turning or my joints will hurt me severely.
With all these issues, we started sleeping separately. It has nothing to do with sex. We're retired and the kids are out of the house, so if we're
feeling frisky, we go for it. Sleeping is a completely different thing. We actually sleep in shifts. He sleeps from the early afternoon until
around midnight. I go to bed around midnight, when he wakes up.
There are no issues in our relationship, other than the previous one of neither of us getting good, quality sleep.
The newer, more expensive houses are now building two master bedrooms, because of this very issue. Wanting and needing a good, solid, peaceful
night's sleep doesn't mean that the relationship is on the rocks. Taking caring of ourselves physically means that we're happier and in a better
frame of mind. Anybody that is so needy that they cannot be a big boy or girl and sleep by themselves, despite one or both of the partners not being
able to get restful sleep might need some soul searching as to why they cannot be alone at night.