I see what you are saying now arpgme. I like that sentence. Good thoughts Billmeister, and there are so many psychological terms/words that can
confuse this all IMHO.
I will offer my 2 cents, and then explain my name ibiubu.
Introspection is looking within. Can be bad, can be good. Are you dwelling on something, or you trying to think of your favorite to visit place to
Outrospection is looking outside yourself. Same possibilities apply. Are you seeking approval (like arpgme mentions) or are you being empathetic
towards others. In the context of the video, I prefer the word nurturing, but a bit semantics and it is not about me.
To think of a person as someone who displays introspection and outrospection is "black and white" thinking. Tends to imply they are self-seeking or
only self-less. So many possibilities occur in a relationship.
If I have good relationships (myself, others, family, work, animals), I am happy and serene. We all need other people. We are symbiotic beings. We
affect each other just as the vid pointed out - both with physical language and mental impact. I must first be myself, comfortable with who I am.
Otherwise, the relationship is doomed. So, I approach other people first with interest. I want to know about them, pretty much cause I'm curious
anyway. The effect of listening, conversing, and just "being there" has a huge impact on the other person. Send out positive vibes, for lack of a
better word, and you get them back. The more comfortable that person is as an individual, the better the outcome.
Fear, bias, misunderstanding, manipulation, and other things stand in the way of nurturing any relationship. Tolerance, humility, and virtue help
nurture any relationship. It's interesting that serenity is achieved by not seeking it. If you just "be" (stay in the moment, or go with the flow)
and "be there" for others, you go to sleep happy. Isn't that the goal? If you have expectations and an agenda that is "against" the flow, you are
never happy. A bit like trying to control your outcome.
Those that are self-seeking have a relationship problem. If one desires power and is willing to manipulate, cheat, and lie to achieve it; they
certainly care less about other people than they do themselves. The problem is not their relationship with other people. It is their relationship
with themselves. Those who act this way are riddled with guilt. At a certain point, they may become a 'psychopath', tormented by their own soul.
I always ask people who are offended by people, "Is it because you want them to act like you wish?" Next question is "What if we were all the same?
If we were programmed robots according to what you believe should be?" Usually the answer is "I see your point." I've gotten a few choice words, but
understand. No punches LOL.
ibiubu = i was going to get a customized license plate and had only so many letters and digits to choose from. So it's an acronym. I was talking to
a friend (actually a rasta from Jamaica mon), and sometimes i give im a bit of da island patois. We were discussing our viewpoints on racism. He
said "I am I HIM." HIM is a reference to "His Imperial Majesty" from Ethiopian Royalty. Because I knew his nature, he was not being arrogant. He
truly just felt that we was a good person. And, he was. I responded "I Be I and You Be You." Later I laughed, because it's exactly how I feel about
my relationships with other people.
May Peace Be With You
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