Today I was yelled at and abused by a ranting lunatic – he sprayed his spittle all over me and eyeballed me with his lumpy jaundiced eyes. Up close
This was all over a parking space I have been using perfectly legally for 20 years on and off. He, new to the neighbourhood has decided that there is
not enough space to get his car past my car. He asked me to move my car – I did so without protest and without a problem.
Thus he was able to move his car past, in actual fact I would have been able to manoeuvre a Sherman tank past, but he is clearly a useless driver [I
may be a woman but I used to drive for my job].
Next thing I know he has leapt out of his car without provocation and is stormin’ normin’ towards me! Teeth bared, jaws clenched and frontal lobe
He was shouting, his voice was loud, his arms were being waved around and he was practically spitting in my face with his anger and venom. This felt
very, very uncomfortable – I was terrified. He said something along the lines that he was ‘’ very angry’’ ‘’ he had had enough’’
‘’ I don’t like you’’ and continued in a verbal tirade of abuse for approximately several minutes.
BTW he does not know me – I have never spoken to him before.
This is from WW2 a govt campaign and is good advice:
I hate to admit this but I am actually very English and I hate shouting and scenes... so I stood my ground, did not back away as he shoved his face
into mine and politely in a very measured voice said to him:
‘’ do not speak to me in such an aggressive and rude manner please’’
Well this enraged him and he went on and on in a fit of rage – his face looked like it was going to burst in a red blob of anger.
I was actually frightened and felt he was going to hit me, but I refused to back away and I refused to move and I spoke to him calmly and asked him to
Anyway – after a further tirade of abuse he left and I was left feeling very shaken and thought, I am going to report him to the police. Why? I
think he might be a dangerous man, and he frightened me.
All though I had miraculously managed to maintain my demeanour I was actually shocked by his vitriol and the violence of his outbursts.
At the police station – the PC was very unhelpful, she spoke to me only through the plastic barrier, and in front of other waiting people – so no
She also told me that it was my word against his, so if the police did agree to ‘talk’ to him they would have to ‘talk’ to me also.
I explained that he was a big man and as she could see I was a small woman and I was the victim of scary abuse, she said, yes but maybe he will say he
was scared by your abuse. I could not believe it !!
Then she told me – we don’t deal with these complaints you have to go to another police station and anyway that is the way society is these
I pointed out that I have lived in this society for 40 odd years and never in my life have I been subjected to such verbal abuse. She just shrugged
her shoulders and said –
‘well that is the way it is these days’.
Essentially, the police are meant to be there to protect us and I was made to feel as if I had done something wrong by complaining.
When did the police become such political pawns, such un empathetic thugs who parade around in day glo / high vis jackets and barely listen to a word
you say? paramilitarary political enforcers.
In the England I grew up in – the police were more like this:
edit on 22-2-2013 by HelenConway because: (no reason given)