Obviously there are loads of factors that play into people's health problems -- and everybody here makes great points.
But the elephant that always seems to be in the room whenever I hear an obese person talk about not being able to lose weight is this one: babies
aren't born obese. At some point, either because their parents overfed and underexercised them, or because they packed on pounds later on, they
And that's the key event that that person needs to reverse.
For many women, the metabolic changes associated with pregnancy REALLY knock them down. Not all women have this problem, but many, many do -- the
first baby and first pregnancy comes along, and after that your body is just really, really different. If you used to just eat a little bit less each
day to drop five pounds a week or whatever, now your body isn't letting you do this. Then you have all the pregnancy weight itself to lose. And you
also have a new baby to take care of - a 24/7 job that lasts at least 18 years, longer if your kid is one out of 88 and possibly on the severe
autistic spectrum or is born with other disabilities, meaning that your kid will never leave home or live independently from you.
So for some women, learning just what they need to do now to keep their bodies healthy and slim is very difficult after pregnancy.
So they have to work to reverse that key event that hit their body so hard and wrecked their youthful metabolism; that takes a lot of effort. Men
don't understand this, usually, because they might only notice the women who don't have problems after pregnancy; but there are huge numbers of
women whose metabolism really changes after the first pregnancy. I knew one woman whom everybody praised because she managed to stay so slim after her
first pregnancy. What people didn't know is she was limiting herself to 500 calories a day to keep that figure; that's starvation level eating. And
she could no longer eat a normal 1100 calories a day like she could before she had the baby; her body's metabolism was just DONE post-baby.
Anyway, there is usually a specific time in a person's life when the weight gain happened; working to reverse that is critical to dropping the weight
and regaining health. And it's very hard work for people.
But again, babies aren't born morbidly obese! So owning up to the fact that there was a time when bad habits or your parents' overfeeding you messed
up your health is very important; then you need to reverse that process as best you can. Losing 35 pounds is nothing like what people are facing when
they reach a point where they're 200 pounds overweight; these are EXTREME situations, and people need to take ownership over their bodies and stop
acting like the fat was just delivered by the Tooth Fairy or something and they're just a "victim" of their fatness. No, you're a co-conspirator;
you did something to get fat.