Should it Matter Who Takes Whos Last Name When Getting Married?, page 1


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Topic started on 19-2-2013 @ 06:30 PM by Agarta
I was reading through some older news stories and came across one that I think would make for a decent discussion. Traditionally when a (traditional) couple get married, the Woman takes the last name of the Man, but in the news in January there is a case in which the Man took the last name of his Wife in the State of Florida. The State of Florida suspended his DL for fraud saying 'that only works for women,'. He went through the entire process of changing his name, just as any Woman would do so, including obtaining a new passport.

Here are a couple links to the story:
news.yahoo.com...
newsfeed.time.com...

He was turned down in his complaint he filed and planned to appeal the ruling but the State of Florida has stated it was wrong to accuse him of fraud and has reinstated his DL. Here is a link to that report.
news.msn.com...

Although it has been common practice for a very long time, I do not see why, in todays day and age, a Man could not take the Womans last name. Shouldn't it be left up to choice? Apparently it is even on the books as legal in 9 states(California, New York, Hawaii, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Oregon, Iowa, Georgia and North Dakota). Is it time to let go of the old thoughts and move into equality and choice in this area?

What then about same sex marriage? Would it not be acceptable for one to take the sir name of the other where these marriages are legal?

What say you ATS?


reply posted on 19-2-2013 @ 07:01 PM by Agarta
reply to post by Ghost375


To whom are you referring to in this statement?
You've already taken everything else.



reply posted on 20-2-2013 @ 03:23 AM by Miraj
reply to post by Agarta


this case isn't the first.

I know of men in this region who took their wives name, for various reasons.

One being that he was estranged from his family and didn't want association with them anymore.

Florida is very backwards in some ways though.
If we recognize marriage as equal partnership. And we should. Then there should be no stipulation that the man can't take the wifes name, or that both keep their names.


reply posted on 20-2-2013 @ 03:25 AM by Miraj
reply to post by burdman30ott6


Not every man has to prove their masculinity.

If you feel the need to prove it, is it even there?


reply posted on 20-2-2013 @ 02:25 PM by FreedomEntered
reply to post by burdman30ott6


Question the manliness? what if the guy doesnt like his family and he just feels close to his wifes family.

My gosh if you associate manliness with names you really are backward. It has nothing to do with this what so ever. A man is a man . By dare I say it HIS BEHAVIOUR. If you are speaking interms of the admirability of a dude.

I even feel if a man took my name and later kept it , say after divorce , so be it. Doesnt make a hell of a difference to me. Certainly wouldnt effect how I view him. And for the record id say Ive been out with very macho men so I speak from experience of what it means to be manly.
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reply posted on 20-2-2013 @ 02:30 PM by FreedomEntered
reply to post by daryllyn


Oh gosh I didnt think about that. Maybe thats why they dont allow it. Weird for two men totally unrelated apart from to a woman with the same name as that woman. Even if they are divorced.

But just goes to show you what us women have put up with lol.. being this harem , part of a tribe connected to some dude. Lets change that
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