Originally posted by smyleegrl
Emotionally, crying allows the person to release pent-up anger, sadness, terror, or other emotions. Some people cry, others punch pillows or yell at trees.
I find crying to be therapeutic. I don't do it often, but when stress builds and I'm at my breaking point, a good ten minute bawl will set things to rights. Afterwards, I feel drained and empty of emotion much like a punctured abscess (sorry about that analogy, but it's apt).
My poor husband, he doesn't get it, even after almost eight years of marriage. He thinks crying is a bad thing, and automatically tries to give me comfort. Then I have to explain that I need a good cry, not to worry, and everything will be okay.
I think of crying like the release valve on a pressure cooker. If you don't release it somehow, you'll explode.
I also believe we should be teaching our young ones how to release these feelings...I have a hunch that some of today's spree killers never learned how to let go.
Originally posted by cartesia
educated guess would be pre-existing abilities repurposed in the evolution of social structures/ communication.
Originally posted by Xaphan
There's nothing wrong with crying. I'm male and I don't think males who cry are [snip]. For some strange reason though I'm unable to cry and have been for about 12 years now (best estimate). I'm not sure why I can't, but I just can't even when I feel sad.edit on 18-2-2013 by Kandinsky because: Snipped needless profanity
Originally posted by Bluesma
I consider crying an important way to clear my body of emotional build up- and I do not mean in some vague mind -sense.... for emotions are physiological, they are chemicals, hormones, that your body produces in response to things.
Normally they serve to give us the physical energy we need to take action in response to a threat or obstacle, but since our mind can exaggerate the size of the problem (and the body doesn't know the difference between objective reality and subjective),
or our circumstances have us in a restricted position where we cannot react,
you can have too much of these chemicals circulating in your body, and that can be destructive to your body in many ways.
So crying (and sweating, I think) allows us to empty out the excess. I made a joke yesterday in a post about it being how I "release extra fuel to lighten my load", because as I watched this being done in a plane I was in once, it hit me that the processes are similar.
Though I admit my view is not based on scientific data- I have never researched to find out whether this is true, I would be almost willing to bet it is. In any case, I find it useful in a way that seems to point to this conclusion.
editted to add- as I often do, I rushed to put my two cents in befoe reading what others answered, and I see that someone else already posted a theory like my own! I am glad to see that there has been some evidence this is true!
-as a side note, I don't know if humans are the only animals to do this, because I have had some experiences in seeing horses cry in certain situations, that are very compelling indications that they cry in the same way we do.
They are also a highly emotional-reactional animals too, so it would make sense...edit on 18-2-2013 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)
Originally posted by CarbonBase
Same reasons that we swear! the room is dark, our big toes are soft and squishy and the oak legs of the bedpost are very, very hard and painful when you make contact in the dark when you get up in the middle of the night because you hear a tiny voice calling 'Daddy'!edit on 18/2/2013 by CarbonBase because: bad typing
Originally posted by Bluesma
reply to post by FreeThinkerbychoice
Yeah, I liked that movie too.
Horses do not have an intellectual-type of intelligence as we do, I don't think. They don't seem to use linear thought, and associate things in terms of cause-effect. It is closer to the intuitive or subconscious intelligence we have that associates things in equal groupings instead, based upon memory of experiences.
But without delving into that too much, they are highly emotive.
I have seen tears begin dropping from their eyes with the loss of a long term partner (another horse I mean), and I have seen it happen when they were in great pain.
In each case one could hypothesize other explanations- they could have just happened to get dust in their eye right then...but if you know the rest of their body language, you would recognize other signs of emotional distress at the same time.
In my own humble opinion, I don't think a horse would "think" about things they want or imagine they are missing, as we do. But the experience of loss of security and familiarity can still be felt and provoke a flood of hormonal reactions in them that could need to be released in tears. -Especially in captivity where action and expression may be limited! A horse in a state of emotional distress might get out that hormonal rush by running and bucking in nature... but if he is tied to a post and conditioned to stand still at that moment, the body needs to get it out somehow! (unless it is able to break away and go running through a battlefield and barbed wire, of course.... )edit on 19-2-2013 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)