I believe our youths are growing up in a much more somber
world these days, and many have adopted a very dark attitude,
which can manifest in exhibiting "gothic" dress and behavior,
fascination with occult, etc.
The challenges they face are far greater than what we baby boomers
faced. And sadly, many lack caring parents or meaningful relationships
with adults who can guide and provide them with a positive influence.
Peer pressure is enormous, and difficult to avoid.
I recall listening to Black Sabbath music, the Doors, and other groups
which provoked somber thoughts and moods. But we didn't take it
as far as our youths do today.
Teenage years are years of searching and learning who we are. It is
natural to explore various modes of dress, hairstyles, music, etc.
When parents come down on it, it only makes them want it more.
We must remember to love the child, although we may condemn their behavior. Tolerance is important and being flexible and able to compromise helps to
ease stressors which such extreme behavior may tend to create at home.
Many youths do not trust adults, and their confidentes fear they would betray their friends by disclosing their suicidal friend's thoughts and
tendencies, but it is imperative they turn to school counselors, religious figures or neighbors--to prevent teen suicide.
One toll free phone number is:
Here are some good links to explore:
In this link, be sure to read parts 1 - 7:
I think it is important to mention here that parents MUST keep their guns under lock and key, as guns are a very common method in suicide attempts by
Common signals hinting of suicidal tendencies may NOT be present.
I know this firsthand, as my son attempted suicide at the age of 15.
Being on medication may not prevent suicide. A combination of
psychotherapy, counseling, group therapy or other modalities is very
I hope this helps.